It is a long drwan out story. I am in the Military and serving away from home. My husband is home. I told him that is anything happened not to let me find out. Well, I did. I went home on leave recently. Before leaving to go home I found out that he had spent a bunch of money at a strip bar.( I checked our account on line). Since June 05 he has spent atleast $1,800.00 in these bars. I also suspected that he had been seeing someone on the side. But didn't press. I did just a search on the month of February on line at first and he said that was the only time and he was sorry and ashamed. Well, I found four more times that he spent money on an ATM at these bars in different months. He was on Drill near a Military post on these weekends. I would try to call and he would say he had the phone on charger in the truck. he would call me the next day and say that he was sorry and play it off. I even found out that he had done this before I deployed, he knew I was deploying too! I had a heart to heart with him and he confessed about the affair and whom with and all. I am going to write her and I hope she responds. If he lied about anything he told me about with her then I am through. I feel I need to see if the affair started and ended as he says, from her. I am wanting to save my marriage,but when I ask questions he makes me feel like I am tormenting him! He swears it is over the bars, her, and that he loves me and is wanting to prove it to me. I am having a hard time dealing with being seperated again and wondering if he is really going to do it now or not. I know that my step-son just moved in and so he will not be able to have much time after school to mess around. However, right now he is a stay at home dad, that gives him from 8-2. What should I do?

PEOPLE DONT CHANGE, especially cheaters. Ask youself this question. Could I ever trust him again?