After 16 years of marriage to a compulsive liar, my life is in such a mess I find myself not knowing which way to turn. Ten years ago I thought that my husband had changed. We had worked together to repair the trust and out lives because of the lies and deceptive things that led us into loosing everything. For ten years I have build rebuilding my trust in my husband. Believing him and trusting him because I thought that he had learned what the consequenses were from lying and being deceptive.

For a time it was good. Financially he seemed to take respnsibility. We worked toward repairing our financial situation and our credit that he had destroyed. We even we able to buy a home again after 10 years. Loosing everything was so devastating to us and our children. I thought he had learned his lesson.

After loosing our home and our business over ten years ago and going into bakruptcy, I felt that the effort my husband over the last 10 years was proof he had overcome his compulsive lying and was becoming the type of person that he said he was.

He once again was able to start a business in the area that he had once been so brilliant at. We paid off debts and fixed our credit, bought a home and I thought were finally living a life of dignity. That was until 8 months ago when a constable came to my door delivering a lawsuit from a company my husband did business with suing us for over $250,000.00 dollars and had put a lein on our home for that amount and a sale by the sherriffs office was being planned for our home and anything we owned.

I was and am destroyed. We have seven children 3 of which are still at home. They know what is going on. It has changed them. We went into counseling for a little while, it did not help.

My husband was forced to take chapter 13 bankruptcy again just to save our home. I threatened to leave if he didn't get help with his lying.

I believe that is the only reason he went into counseling.

My husband swore for the last 3 years that he was doing everything by the book and if I even questioned him or felt like he was lying he would make me feel so guilty telling me I would never let the past go and if we were to make our marriage work I needed to trust and believe in him.

I now know he not only lies to me but to everyone around him. I will never be able to trust him ever again.

But now I have had a total melt down. I now longer know how to function. I avoid all the things that I use to do and love. I can't clean my home, I avoid people like the plague. I try to deal with my kids but I know that I am not doing as good of job as I used to.

Our counseling stopped of course. My husband just doesn't have the time while he is trying to keep the business going and make sure that we don't loose our home.

I no longer love my husband. I feel so trapped because he is one of those guys that does so much other wonderful things and of course our children adore him.

During the course of counseling I too found out that all the things he told me of himself before I knew him are lies.

I have been forced to live an ugly deceptive life because of my husband and I am tormented by this every minute of my day.

I am even forced to have to do books, even though I know he can withhold information so I know I will never know what is really going on with the business.

At 46 years old I have no income of my own, I have tried to get jobs other places, but I have not been successful.

I feel like my life is over. I feel like I have no more choices. I am trapped in a hell I cannot get out of.

So I say to you young mothers and wives and girlfriends. They will not change, protect yourselves, do not walk, run away from the compulsive liar in your life before you wasted years of yours life living in their destruction.

Hi..I am so sorry for all u have been through..I also have been the 1 being lied to over and over again..Get this! I even would go behind him and check up on him and he knows I do this and still will lie..my family think it's funny as I will go check if I have the slightest incling of what he is lying about..I now will say something if I know he is going to lie to someone..unless he wants to get embarressed he better keep his lips closed..I got tired of trying to defend him to others,now he knows..but that doesn't stop the lies to me..

Hi ditto all of the above but I do have an income of my own,but not as much as if we were still living together. I got out 4 days ago,it still hurts but after 12 years of trying I think im done for my own mental and physical health,I have to be healthy for our 10 year daughter she needs me as her father will never be reliable either emotionally or financially as he has so many debts. My credit was also threatened but have now notified people that he no longer lives at this address. You must have a back up plan for your security.

And hey stardreamer im 45 your life is not over, I do not feel that way I now feel free to do whatever I want whether it be going out with friends (no one ever wanted him along it was too embarassing when he came out with tall stories.) lay in bed all day watching movies with my Daughter in our pyjamas or take off and visit pople.

I just know ive made the right decision to get out after tonights little show,the last batch of lies which bought things to a head were about a laptop he had secretly bought and kept in his work vehicle (was meant to be not geting into anymore debt and he has been caught with other womens phone numbers on his mobile) so when I discovered this my mind went into overdrive as to what he was using it for 1e chatrooms and a secret email. He called today to ask to come see our daughter and what does he bring into the house ..... to show our little girl,yep the said laptop. Manipulative or what? She of course was excited at this lovely item,bless her innocence. He thinks he has one over on me and I now look the baddie for being so upset at this lovely piece of technology that just cost us all dearly emotionally and financialy. And to think I used to say to myself, oh he doesnt know what hes doing he cant help it. Well now he is showing he knows exactly what he is doing and trying to manipulate her,evil minded or what? Now he has had to go down another route because hes been backed into a corner over the lying yet again. I thought he had done all he could after 12 years,he has no respect for me not even because im the Mother of his child. Be warned ladies. I think a new battle is about to commence!!!

I just don't get the nerve of these men..I'm glad u were smart and kicked him out..u never said if he let your daughter go on the laptop? How did u find all this out when his laptop was in his truck? Kinda ironic isn't it,they can't help but,but boy they sure have money when it comes to them..I'll ask him if he has any money and he'll say no but let me tell u he never goes without his cigg..He nows walks ahead of me or will vanish until I'm done paying then he reappears..the thing is,I don't ask him for anything but to pay his share of the bills..I just don't understand how 1 person can lie and lie and never feel bad for the people they hurt by it..