Poor,poor baby! He needs to be rescrued from his horrible girlfriend and who better to save him than his ex! Who better to fix him and reassure him he's a good guy? After all their relationship was soooo successful and soooo compatible! If it has nothing to do with the current girlfriend then why not wait until they break up and give it another go? Why? Because she's walked down that road and she knows she doesn't want that again but it sure feels good knowing he still "wants" her. They stroke each other's ego and he never has to examine his flaws or do any work to change. He goes on his happy little narcistic way! Way to go cheating ex! You've just guaranteed that whatever pain he inflicted on you in your past relationship will continue to be passed onto his future girlfriends.

Haha, YES! I think it's fair enough to say that the woman who accepts being the 'other' has some issues to work on herself!
Touche, POed!

LMAO! POed...haha! Totally agree! Although I must say the young lady who posted and said she was the other woman in a relationship and doesn't want to travel down that road again...I have to give her a big thumbs up for recognizing that being the other woman was not the way to go. I applaud her for being honest and truely feeling remorse about what she had done. Not many *other women* would do that.

NOt sure. I called the girl. and she told me that what she and my husband had is of no consequence to her.

Been reading this one. Yup, I have been in both shoes. When I was the other woman, basically I believed a string of stories that made me believe the man was more available than he was. Trust me, men do this. When I was the woman with the straying guy, my first inclination was to track down the other woman and take vengeance. My temper quickly cooled down and yes I did realized I knew exactly what was going on in the other woman's head. With my guy, I knew he was stringing a story to the lady that totally excluded me from the picture. Basically in both cases the main one and the other one were both following along with a story line that were disconnected with each other.

I'll throw a few comments into the ring. Has anyone sat down with the other one and actually compared story lines? I have been tempted but never done this.

The other thing is, a relationship is a figment based on perception. How do we know that our perception of our relationship is the same as our partners? I know in my case even with what I thought was really good communication I was blindsided.

Jen--About 2-3 months into the relationship with my stbx bf I asked him if we were in a committed relationship. He of course said yes. Now several times within the last six months after finding something that could indicate he was cheating and sometimes a fight, I asked him if he wanted to see or date other women. Again of course he said no. Our communication was very clear.From him, honest was another matter. As far as comparing notes with the other women I suspected he was cheating with, I WAS VERY TEMPTED but because I wasn't sure exactly who I didn't attempt it. Now that it's ending I would like to try, but how? At this point it wouldn't make much difference anyhow but while we were still together it would have been great to have my suspicions validated. Why don't we start a website called What He Tells Me? Women could put their bf's name and of course what he tells them is the status of their relationship.What a great way to expose a cheater! Don't know how but I'm gonna look into it and work on the details. What'da ya think of my idea? Any suggestions?