You are always welcome. Let me know how it goes after you talk to him. If you ever need anything feel free to post I will be happy to help anyway I can.

Thank you for the kind words, you put a smile on my face.

Swarinski is awesome!

Just a couple of little things...it sounds like he always used you as his platform to make his own self esteem issues temporarily disappear. His criticism and judgements on you were more harmful to you, and kudos for overcoming! Keep up the good work!

You got a NOTE telling you to leave? Jeez, that sounds like a coward to me! He couldn't ask you face to face, after the time that you spent with him, and deal with this situation like an man? Wow! Now, he wants to have a phone conversation with you to discuss whatever is on HIS mind at HIS convenience...GIRL! (with attitude)

I know you're curious as to what he wants to say, and if it were me (being curious myself) I would call him, however, I would make a list of ALL the things I wanted to say to him. Make a list of all the questions, issues, suspicions, and anything that you ever wanted to say to him that you were not able to talk about because of his refusal for discussion...AND MAKE SURE HE LISTENS! And...TELL HIM what time you'll be calling him according to what is most convenient for YOU! The ball is in your court...play it!

If for nothing else, closure. Don't fall for his charm or his lies. Have this conversation with nothing else in mind other than to say your peace, and wish him a good life and say goodbye.

My thoughts and prayers are with you girl. Let us know how this all turns out!

Laura

Laura , thank you so much and you Sawinski you are such wonderful promises for a stronger future .

It's funny you know, how easy you can connect with people on this site who don't juge your weaknesses and allow you to speak so freely and honestly .

Friends and family tend to do alot of eye rolling and hands in the air . It's just refreshing to be able to offload and get some advice .

Laura, I wish the best for you and hope you work things out . I read your posting and my heart goes out to you especially as you have to be all things to all people.
But I'm confident you will get through it and I am so touched that you took time out to help me with my dilema when you have your own struggles to face . I hope all your dreams and wishes come true .

Take Care will post as soon as I've had the conversation and thanks again.

I would meet with him out of curiosity but be very careful. Don't fall for the lies. You are lucky that you got out of the relationship. Can he change? Yes. But not that quickly. If he says he wants to try again take it slow (assuming you want to try again as well) and look for the old traits to come through. Don't be afraid to question them. Try not to be overly critical but don't just overlook them either. Stay true to yourself.

Well Guys I waited and waited and waited and waited for THE PHONE CALL and it never came . AS I waited so long I decided I would CALL . Same old, same old, the phone was slammed down and I could hear the female hiss andd giggile in the background .

Guess there's no fool like a SAD fool . Why am I so stupid ?
I ended up writing a very hurt very angry email which was kind of cleansing ; but then I started to feel bad in case I had hurt his feelings ???? This is so wierd I thought I had released all that nasty negativity and now it's back and like a great big cloud he's still laughing at me trying desperately to pick up the brocken pieces of my worthless heart . Why did he do this ?

Thanks anyway for all your positive feedback just hope this feeling goes away again.

Ok well obviously your not over the relationship so for that reason from now on you should just ignore him. I couldnt even begin to tell you why he did this to you, maybe he did want to talk and then other things came up. I dont know but you now know that he is not good for you. He has no regard for your feelings at all and from now on I would just keep moving forward. You know that you will be ok, that you will get over this to. You did it the first time and you will do it again.

Take this as a lesson learned and he will never be able to contact you again.

I am sorry things went bad but now you know that he is not a person that you want in your life.