I guess that came out wrong . What I was trying to say in the post is that I had been with my BF for so long without the need for material items and this old college friend of mine had explained that he thought I would have been more secure myself and stable myself . I may have posted it a little clumsily .I was trying to point out that perhaps the age gap had highlighted some material differences that were more obvious to those people in my old social group. Hope that makes sense . I would never ever leave someone just because they have no material possesions but isn't it just as bad of him to dump someone because of an age gap and not anything else . If I had been a greedy gold digger I would have left my BF a long time ago . Neither of us have money . My connection with him was heart and soul nothing more . I was looking for possible wekanesses he had that I could use in case he dumped me for my age which is actually what he's done . Seriously if you knew me you'd know I never judge anyone by their possessions or the colour of their skin or their AGE! I'd like further feedback if you have any and hope I've explained the position better.

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Whatever, the post was trying to describe how a difference in a few years can highlight other differences in

I disagree with your post . I think what the poster was saying was that she may have been older and he was not so ahead in the game of life and she was describing the perfect dream with this other guy who she knocked back and was only thinking about calling beacuse she was worried about telling her current BF her age . So to the OP , i see you told him and it hasn't worked out . I'm not sure if you still want him in your life because he can't accept you because of your age ! Wierd Wierd . Time to leave him .

I think that's the whole point right there . The guy isn't offering her any Emotional support because she was scared stiff of telling him and now he's dumped her and she's on her own and everyone is a little materialistic to a degree regardless of their age . I think what she was trying to do was say that the old college BF had all the usual trappings of success and she had followed her heart and she had nothing anyway because the guy hadn't offered her that emotional support and he proved it by dumping her because she was a little older than her ! What a crazy situation. Don't worry your still worth everything and nothing can change that . I think you should just ignore him . He's pinned his true colours to the mast and they're really ugly . what goes around comes around sooner or later old balding and aged it happens to the best so why not him ?:

Ok your right I took your post completely wrong.

If your boyfriend left maybe its not the age gap as much as it is the lie that you have been telling. I dont know how long you guys were together but maybe he is just upset that you lied to him for the whole relationship, does that make sense? I agree that age is nothing but a number and its only 5 years but for him maybe thats a lot to him, maybe he just cant cope with it. If thats the case then your better off anyways.

Ok everyone has attacked me! I can only go off what I read and what I saw was someone putting down her current boyfriend and talking about another man in a much better light.

I have already reposted so everyone can get off my back! Everyone has there own oppinion and I am allowed to have mine.

Mabye if honesty was there from the beginning this never would have happened. How can you have a BF and they not know your real age? Has any addressed the issue of the lie that was told here!

ok I was just thinking has anyone had this happen to them? I have, I dated a guy for about 6 months. He told me he was 26 I was 19. I ended up pregnant & found out that he was actually 31 and then other things started to surface. It wasnt just the lie about the age it made me question everything that he told me. I left him, sure did! Age is nothing but a number but its the lie that hids behind it thats bad. I have a little girl by this man & I love my daugther with everthing that I have but I couldnt hang with someone that lied to me. I believe in honesty and age should be told at the beginning not the end.