My husband and I have been together for 6 years. He always complains that he doesn't have enough friends. About two years ago there was a guy at work who invited him to the movies with one of his friends. I encouraged him to go. As it turned out this guy's friend was a woman. My husband writes screen plays on the side and this woman is a playwright on the side, needless to say, they hit it off. A few weeks after that, this woman, my husband and myself went out to dinner. She seemed okay enough but no one I'd really pursue a friendship with. A few weeks after that I noticed that my husbands behavior had changed a bit. I didn't want to jump to cheating because he was with me all the time so I don't know when he would have even had time to cheat. One day I was in his e-mail looking for something when I stumbled upon e-mails between the two of them. He confided in her that his family isn't supportive with his writing aspirations and she replied that she would always support him. At that point, I confronted him and told him that she made me very uncomfortable and I wanted him to end his friendship with her. I did not like her belittling me that way. It's easy to support lofty aspirations when responsibility isn't involved (and for the record, I supported him for many years and took several financial blows before I suggested that he keep it as a hobby). Anyway, He refused the stop talking to her. We had a huge blow out and actually decided to stop trying for kids. I informed him that every time he talked to her he was hurting me and I needed him to stop. Fast forward 8 months, things were pretty much back to normal for us and we decided to try for a baby. I got pregnant that month. Everything with us was great my whole pregnancy. We now have a 2 month old daughter. Five days ago I was using his cell phone when I found a text message from this woman from 10pm the previous night that said she would call him later. My heart sunk. I pulled all our old cell phone bills and found that he has been in contact with her regularly. Furthermore, the peak of their contact was 2 weeks last fall when I was away on a business trip. I found places on the bill where he was on the phone with me and got off our call to talk to her, meanwhile he must have lied to me for an excuse to get me off the phone. I confronted him about it and he denied any affair. He swore that they just talk about writing together. He says that I am not supportive enough to him and he needed someone to talk to. I reminded him that nearly 2 years ago I asked him to find another buddy to talk about writing with and he refused. He admits what he did was wrong and that he his sorry for hurting me. I told him that I don't trust him anymore and that I feel very betrayed. He thinks I'm over reacting. The problem is that I really don't trust him anymore. Do I think he cheated on me? Unless it happened at his office, I doubt it. He really is always with me. I can't verify anything for last fall except a sharp increase in calls while I was gone but it haunts me because I don't know if he cheated then. Anyway, I almost am at the point where I want to separate from him. For him to contact her for over a year behind my back after I told him how much it hurts me is a pretty big betrayal in my book. It makes me really question his motives and commitment At the same time, we have a 2 month old baby who deserves to have a whole family. It would kill me to break up her family. She'd never know what a family feels like. I don't know what to do. All I know is that I don't trust my husband at all anymore which is making our marriage very difficult. He told me he'd stop talking to her but now when I call him at work and he says he can't talk I find that I am always assuming the worst. I'm becoming someone I never wanted to be. He's my best friend and now that I don't trust him I feel so alone. Any advice?

First off your not over reacting, your reaction is normal. He has betrayed you and lied to you so you are justified in your reactions, thoughts & feelings. I would say that I would keep an eye on him. he needs to work on building your trust back, its going to take awhile and its not going to be easy but it can be done. I wish you all the luck and hope it works out for you.

Keep an eye on him for a month but say nothing. Check his cell phone bill and atm bill as well. If there is something worth worrying about, you will see a trail.

good luck