Honesty evades women and men in equal measure, thank you very much - it's not tied to one specific gender.

To answer the original question -what the hell kind of weird story is that? My wife has cooked up some whoppers in her time but your boyfriend's story is weird.

1) He tells you that he didn't know how they got there in the first place - as if some bad man done it and then ran away. Trash.

2) He then decides that he was carrying out scientific research into the longevity of a chubby when wearing a condom!?!? No way.

It sounds like utter nonsense to me, however I wouldn't be ending the relationship on a maybe. This site contains a whirlwind of information on how to identify infidelity. I suggest you act as if you have accepted his story and then keep a very careful eye on him. Ask him questions about his day. Then ask him again later - see if the answers remain the same. Watch the use of his mobile, computer, car and car mileage, etc. Watch out for his work/class patterns and look for suspicious trends. Listen out for who he is telling you he spends his time with. Watch out for till receipts and strange money movements. If you get the chance - access the mobile and computer.

You may feel bad doing this and your boyfriend may be completely innocent, if a little weird. However it's your right to know the truth and to use the truth to make informed decisions about your future.

Please take some time though to think about what you are going to do if you find out some unpleasant facts. It's important that you prepare and be at one with your decisions.

Kindest regards and hope for a happy ending!

This is for lukowtim:

I hear what you're saying about there being no point in watching one's partners if there is suspicion of betrayal, but, on the other hand, people find it very difficult to think straight when suspicion of infidelity first raises its ugly head. A lot of people DON'T want to believe what they hear or see. I think that most of the people on this site already know the truth, but, we want to vent out feelings for others to validate I suppose. Yes, we ask others what they think, do they agree, but really, we already know what we think and we rarely take anyone's advice, but its conforting to know that people are taking the time. Once foul play has been detected, it becomes a case for trying to save the relationship or to justify ending it. Either decision will be painful to make, it all depends on whats' involved. If we have been in a relationship or marriage for a long time, we tend to advise to stick with it, if its a new relationship then we would say finish it now as we are all well aware of the problems ahead,but every relationship no matter how young or old, is painful to leave. If I have learnt nothing in life, I have learnt this one thing which I shall trasure to my grave and that is to be patient. Time really will resolve everything. There are a lot of decisions that are made on the spur of the moment which we wouldn't necessarily make with hindsight.

Who posted above- that was a really good point. It is awful that i was lied to before he told me the story. I found two unopened condoms. none were open. you are right about posting my worries on a message board. it is obviously more of an issue than i realized. i guess i am desperate to know if others would believe him also.

he is mostlikely lying why would he need to find out the anwser anyways he is in a realtionship with you and you dont use condoms so why would he need to see if he would get hard why would he go through the trouble maybe if you werent together and he wanted to make sure he would stay hard for the next girl but why would he need the anwser when you have been together 4 years need the anwser so much to go buy a box of condoms not just one to test this idea i think he is lying your best bet is too look back and see if the day before you found them if he wasnt able to see you he was too tired or too busy didnt anwser his phone like normal or if he seemed distance and worried when he did see you but some men/women have no gulit and you might not beable to tell when you look at them so think hard do you want to wonder what he is doing when your not around do you want to worry cuz even if you forgive him you mostliky will worry to much and you dont need that in your mind.

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Who posted above- that was a really good point. It is awful that i was lied to before he told me the story. I found two unopened condoms. none were open. you are right about posting my worries on a message board. it is obviously more of an issue than i realized. i guess i am desperate to know if others would believe him also.

I'm sorry, I was under the assumption you found opened packages of condoms.

Either way, you were still lied to. Since that's a pretty far fetched story, it's hard to believe.

None of us like being lied to. To think the person you've given your love to can turn around and deceive you is a very unsettling thought.

Take care of your emotions. This board is a wonderful place for support and advice; even if the advice isn't always what you're looking for, it may help stir different perspectives in a situation.