Me and my boyf have been together for just over a year now, I am 28yrs old with a daughter who is 9yrs and my boyf is 32yrs old with a daughter of 10yrs.

My child lives with me and my parents (Ive been a lone parent since she was born) my boyfs child lives with her mother just 5min drive away from him.

When I first started dating my boyf we did have alot of problems..... with my insecurity because of an ex being on the scene (even though my boyfs ex has been with her boyf for 4yrs) the ex was saying that my boyf was putting me before his daughter. There was alot of upset and loss of power/control and his ex didnt like it. I got fed up of his exes accusations and sent her nasty message on facebook - although I didnt swear or threaten violence (I am not that type of person) I put;
Dont judge me, or refer to me as "her", get yourself a job, and then you can look down on others.

Re writing it now it doesnt really make any sense. I did lie to my boyf and say that his ex sent me a nasty message first.... this caused problems and I owned up to the lie (even risked loosing my boyf) and I wrote a letter to my boyf exes apologising. She did appreciate this but said her daughter was no longer alloud to be around me anymore and that she didnt trust me????????

It has now been 6mths since this all happened and I would like to spend more time with my boyf other than our 3 evenings a week. I say to him I wish we could all go out as a family and he blames me and says its your fault we cant do that youve given my ex the amunition and power/control over our relationship by sending that email. How can I make this all better again? Do you think my boyf should be standing up to his ex and saying my girlf apologised its been 6mths since this happened get over it and move on.... I want my daughter to get to know her????

wow, i think the first thing you want to consider is whether you guys love each other enough to want to carry on. Most people think love has to be strong at the start for it to last, but i beg to diifer infact look around people who were friends first, relationships last longer. after the lust has past they still have a friend. piont is, that's the most uncomfortable position for even one person to have another child, yet both. thats two ex's to deal with and make like and trust the other person for them to want to allow their child to be around. yes, what you did was wrong, infact it would have been easier if he did that to your ex. reason his ex has parental rights over his child and she can make it very hard for him, and he is going associate it with you. it will take time to heal, but stick it through if you ans. the first question. and when your relationship become more than just been dating for a few months she won't be able to deny, and kiss her up alot (you know what i mean)