I have lied to my boyfriend many times throughout our relationship. There have only been a couple "big" lies, such as looking at old pictures he asked me not to look at and then lying about it and withholding relevant information. However, most of them stem from me either saying something out of ignorance, miscommunication, or changing explanations when I've done something bad.

For instance, last night we were at a friend's house when someone said something offensive about my religion (was not my boyfriend). I muttered something under my breath about it and he heard me and asked what I said. I told him "Nothing" in such a way that implied I didn't want to talk about it in front of anyone. He thought I was deliberately trying to deceive him into thinking that I didn't say anything, which was not the case.

Another incident occurred today where I was on the phone with my sister. It was close to dinnertime, and my boyfriend came in to eat, but the food wasn't quite ready yet. He asked me to wrap up the conversation and when I did, he said that it was very rude for me to not hang up when he walked in. I started making excuses, which he said was "bullshitting" him.

I have two problems. The first is, obviously, that I am afraid I'm about to lose him and have gone past the point of no return. The second is that I can't seem to stop lying, and when I make an effort, it seems that I do it even more. I think I might be a chronic liar and I'm not sure how I can stop this and salvage our relationship.

We have been dating over a year and there's a lot of issues with us, but things can work out beautifully too. I want to prove to him that I can stop lying, but I feel like there's nothing I can do right now and might have already thrown away my relationship. Any advice?

Staple - if those 2 examples are the worst lies you have made we should all be so lucky to have you as a cheating spouse. haha.

But I guess this forum was created to help those with infidelity problems large and small. If I could speak for your boyfriend - I wouldn't worry about bullshitting me until it involves someone else.

Ok seriously this is what your problem is? Ok if your a CL then you should make the effort to fix that but your boyfriend is a bit controlling and rediculous!

He wants you to hang up when he walks in, what so you can can get on your knees and grovel to him? What the hell is he thinking making you get off the phone just because he entered a room. Do he think that highly of himself?

And the "nothing" comment, common everyone does that. Its normal, he is looking for reasons to pick fights and he needs to take a step back and look at what he is doing to him.

Its great if you want to improve yourself but stop making excuses for him. You say its your fault because you lie, well what about him expecting things from you that he shouldnt.

Sounds to me like your relationship is doomed and you should just go ahead and start packing now. Do you want to live the rest of your life like this? Do you have to clean, cook & do laundry with no help from him? I would say that just the cell phone thing would have pissed me off and I would have told him he could have put it!

Let me guess he can sit and talk and when you enter the room does he hang up right away because you walked in?

Your boy frend is a DORK! for treating you like that, your lying to avoid conflict with him, because you know he will treat you even worse, he lets you lie to him so he can use it against you he is a typical control freak, he probbally acts mad for calling him out on his controlling behavior so you roll over and bite your tounge and apoligize for something you DID'NT do wrong.

You should NEVER!!! have to lie when you want to speek the truth, when you need to speek the truth it not natual to lie.
those lies, those are barriers that you are using to try and protect yourself, and they will only cause you to be weaker, speak your mind and say what you want to say and stand up for yourself especially if he does'nt stand up for you.

I know people like him, and cant stand them, so excuse the harsh tone. take care, good luck.