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Happygirl (Visitor)

Trust 6 Months, 3 Weeks ago  
OK I can use some help here. My boyfriend over 16 months or so. We had some problems in the beginning and I left him a few times because he was still hung up on his ex or that she hurt him so badly. We worked through that. He has these evil witches as acquantices. They send him pictures of themselves. He saves them. It was just one girl and then it was a second one. Then I just found 3 of them (2 the same from before) and they are in their bra and underwear. I called him on it in front of his family because they were there. (he is 27 and I am 26). He said he didn't ask for them. I said but you save them. I don't think he got it at first why it would bother me. I was like so I can take pictures of myself like that and send to your friends no big deal? Or I can get guys to do that to me? No I didn't think so. He's like i never talk to them. I said but they think it is ok to do this! You have sluts as acquantices. I was livid. I said I do not trust you. (I looked in his cell phone and saw them again because i felt like something was up again. Would he ever cheat on me? NO does he do these inappropriate things to stroke his self esteem missing ego? Yes.) I think he finally gets how much it hurt me. He never heard me talk and swear and cry like that. I had him delete almost 30 girls numbers. He kept psycho exes so if they call he knows not to pick up. (He has like 3 psycho exes.) I said I am looking in your phone whenever I want to until I am comfortable again. I said you have to really show me you want to work this out. If the power these girls have over you is more than the love you have let me know and I am out. I will take you back and give you a chance. I will not be made a fool of again.

How do I trust him again? He says they just send them to him. I said and 3 girls when i know of NONE who would do that do it to you? He's like i guess all my friends or acquantinces are sluts. I said yes they are. He's like it will NEVER happen again. He said that before but he can't be "mean". I said you are now. Or i am gone. Who cares waht they think? You are an ass who loves your GF so much i will stand up to these bitches! Oh so sad for you.

I want to trust him, but the thoughts keep coming back in and making me sick. It happened 2 days ago not even. So still sick to my stomach about it. How does he prove to me he wants it to work?

Help please!
 
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Re:Trust 6 Months, 3 Weeks ago Karma: 12  
He is going to have to let you look at whatever you want, talk to eachother, basically he will have no privacy for awhile until you trust him again.

But are you sure he would never cheat? I dont want to plant seeds in your head but this to me sounds funny. He has over 30 girls numbers in his phone, are you kidding me! Do you ever get to see his phone bill? i would say that you need to look at those phone bills because that will tell you the real story. I can tell you that I sure as hell dont have 30 guys numbers in my phone. When I started dating my husband all those numbers got erased and I never got them back, still dont want them. Its good that he let you do that, its a step in the right direction. But I would keep my eyes open and keep watching for now until he proves you wrong.

keep watching but try to keep any open mind to.
 
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Re:Trust 6 Months, 3 Weeks ago Karma: 1  
May I ask how long you have dated, and during the relationship, when did these problems occur?

Are they still continuing?
 
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