I dont know what to do. I found out that my husband of 14 years was texting another girl. He admitted he was wrong but said he didnt do anything but flirt. I have become sooo depressed. I feel like someone has died. I love him and I want ot so badly forgive him but i cant shake this feeling. Im still checking his phone and in my mind i question everything he does. He knows now i can check his cell phone and Im afraid he has just started calling her on hsi work phone. I cant get those records. Im friends with his boss and his wife but we attend church together so i dont need that head ache. Please someone tell me this feeling goes away. That i will quit hating myself and i can trust him again one day. Unlike most i was completely blindsided by this. I found the messages by accident. We have never had any major problems before this. I think its why it hurts so bad. I have no one to turn to or talk to. What do i do??

This is going to take time, he has to prove to you that he is trust worthy. If he can prove to you that he is faithful eventually this will pass. He has betrayed your trust even if he didnt do anything with her and he has to earn that back. If he is willing to do whatever it takes then you will get over this. Take your time and deal with your emotions, dont sweep them under the rug, they will only keep coming back. You have to face this head on in order for you to get over it.

Good luck and I hope it all works out for you.

FIRST OF ALL...WHY ARE U HATING URSELF? THAT IS WRONG, U DIDNT DO THIS, HE DID!
IT SOUNDS AS THO, HE MIGHT BE BORED WITH UR MARRIAGE. THAT IS USUALLY THE REASON A MAN/WOMAN STRAYS. TALK TO HIM, GO TO A MARRIAGE COUNSELOR, START FIGURING WAYS TO MAKE UR MARRIAGE EXCITING AGAIN. BUT REMEMBER, HE HAS TO TRY TOO...DONT LET IT BE ONE-SIDED, BECAUSE THAT WILL ONLY CAUSE U TO BECOME ANGRY, U DONT WANT THAT!
BECAUSE UR TRUST IS GONE, UR GOING TO HAVE THIS "CONSISTANT" WORRY IF HE IS TELLING U THE TRUTH. U WILL EITHER HAVE TO GET OVER IT, WORK WITH HIM ON IT, OR GET OUT!! NOTHING MORE, NOTHING LESS! BUT PLEASE REMEMBER THIS ISNT UR DOING, HE DID IT, MAKE HIMMMMM TAKE RESPONSIBLITY FOR HIS ACTIONS...NOT U!! THAT IS WHAT MOST WOMAN DO, THEY PUT THE WRONG DOINGS ON US...THEN TRY TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO MAKE IT RIGHT, INSTEAD OF US MAKING THE PERSON WHO DID IT MAKE IT BETTER ETC!! DONT BE ONE OF THOSE LADIES!
GOOD LUCK!!