Found a message "missing you at 2:35am" on my computer. My husband evidentally was on with someone, had too much to drink, and left it up. I confronted him and he denied it was anything. Said he chatted with alot of people online in chat rooms. I proceeded to IM the girl the next day pretending I was him under a different email address. I found out they had met over 9 mos ago online. She sent me some emails he sent her. They were basically just wishing her happy holidays and the like but one was a little sexual. She sent him a catalog and he picked out the outfit he wanted to see her in and out of. He lied to her about his age by 25 years and his marital status. She quickly wanted nothing to do with him when she found out and I got him confess. At first he still felt it was nothing but he saw how distraught I was and finally came to terms with it. He told me he had cybersex (words) with her and with others from chat rooms. He changed his email address and promised to stay off the computer. We had drifted apart and this was a wake up call for both of us. We are being more attentive to each other and having better sex than ever, but I can't get past this. I can't go to bed at night without thinking he might be trying to go online. I set up a monitor on the computer and I've been checking and it seems so far he's been true to his word. I have put up with alot over the years but I always felt he was devoted. He is always home, rarely goes out except with me, and is a good father. Can't believe he did this to me. The thought of him being intimate with someone else, even though it was online is hard for me to handle. It's only been a few months but I can't shake this awful feeling. How do I get over this?
im so sorry to hear your story, I had something similair to that happen to me and i am goind through the same phase as you like what do i do to get over this and how do i trust my girlfriend again....
My girlfriend just started acting really weird and i went on a website that she frequents and found that she was having cyber sex regularly with 3 or more partners...
The thing with my case is like she still considers it innocent and doesn't understand that even though it was just on the internet, it still hurt me you know?
I want to know how ne can check out what their spouse does on the computer? My boyfriend has cookies eraser and delete history sh*t and has the computer riged to where I cant find out anything and I know he is decieving me AGAIN on there...please help
You can monitor every keystroke your boyfriend makes online with computer monitoring software. It doesn't matter if he clears his history, cookies, or whatever. Companies that offer this type of computer monitoring software are located on the Discover Lying and Deception page.
Im so sorry for you and for me.. My husband of 4 years also had an on-line sexual and emotional relationship. We talked it out and worked through it, with huge difficulty. I chose to beleive him when he told me he would never do it again... he even distroyed his computer. 2 years on we have a new computer and yes! it has happened again!! Even though he knew how much it hurt me the first time and how hard it was to get over, here we are! i cant help but wonder is this a problem like drugs or alchol or is he just a jerk? i am still with him and struggling to trust again. It took him 2 years to cheat again... how long till the next time? oh, and yes! on-line cheating hurts as much as any other type of cheating!!!
I believe if you think "online relationships" means cheating it's your responsibility to communicate this to your partner. I was married 24+ years to a man that was addicted to online porn etc...I finally realized it wasn't his problem it was mine.He didn't want to stop.I was hurt but I've been single for 5 yrs and in most ways happier than I've ever been.
