I am the other woman and I see both sides. I see his side and I also see your side. I have girlfriends. I suggest if you want your man then close your door. So many women spend time attacking and blaming us when you're the one who left the door open in some area and you don't realize it. Men communicate in their own way but you're not listening. Men also leave bread crumbs but you choose not to follow them. I haven't met a wife or girlfriend yet that didn't know or suspect her partner of cheating. I've also never, ever!! been the first. Do you think if he did it once that he will change? He will never change...he is what he is. Yes Yes Yes I understand you have a family and kids but if he doesn't care enough about your family and life then stop asking us to care. I hear you say you stay for the kids or because you don't want them to grow up without a father. What kind of father risks his kids over another woman (sexual or emotional)? Is he really the kind of person you want around your kids? Please don't beat us up...I didn't say "I do"...He did.

Just because you didn't say 'I do' doesn't let you off the hook. But thats besides the point. What I would like to know is, why knowing all you know you would still get involved with a married man. How can you love and respect a man who cheats on his children? I know that emotions are very strong and we can be convinced by these men who are obviously "experts", but in most cases these kinds of liaisons only lead to more heartache.

Why set yourself up as the "other woman?". Yes, the wife does know that he is chating but doesn't always do something, this is simply because she is hoping that he will come to his senses and realise that it is not worth breaking up a family over. When there were rigid rules in place in society, these things didn't happen as much because women were afraid to be branded the "other woman", these days nobody cares about anything any more and some women are actually proud of being the other woman. Oh well, I think its called changing of times isn't it?

You know I have my suspicions about my own husband and ya know I have done nothing but jump through hoops for this man and actually made myself the person he wanted me to be. Your point is very valid as my mother told me it takes two to tango and you and her are right but you both deserve the blame you both made the decision him to cheat and you to be with a married man we all have the right to make our own decisions and take our own path but anyone who is in a relationship where there is cheating involved the wrong choice has been made. And what is so dang inticing about being with a married man why can't you guys go find a single man and for all the cheating men why can't they get the balls to leave before they destroy our lives. So I guess long story short your right we can't put all the blame on you, you only deserve the half that is your fault.