Hello. I have a big problem and I'm going to try and put this as short as possible.

My fiance is in the process of getting divorced. The papers are almost finished. We were not together when they were married, but she cheated on him and that's why they aren't together anymore.

Well, one night on accident, I went through a folder called chat logs on his computer. I did not know what a chat log was, but I find a one for his ex-wife. Their conversation is more intimate then I would like it to be. She brings up sex and he says later, "All boyfriends lie to their girlfriends. It's what we do."

We talk about this and we come to an agreement that he will not talk to her about these kind of things again and that he needs contact with her for the divorce. This was sometime last year.

Yesterday, I'm taking pictures of myself for my friend on my fiance's webcam. I send the pictures from his computer to mine over e-mail and I accidentally receive another chat log he's had with his ex instead of a picture! I open it not knowing it was a chat log (honest) and I read she's still bringing up sex by asking, "What's that cool song we used to listen to during sex?" And, "We still have that sexual attraction going on." He replies with, "lol." They also discuss her coming over to watch movies and extensive conversations about the past.

In other parts, he talks about me a lot. How we're doing well and he's happy him and his ex broke it off and that they're better as friends.

When I talked to him about this, he becomes angry in an instant saying I'm invasive and the only way he can get the divorce papers signed is if he says things like this. It's only when I start to cry that he calms down and hugs me.

Now I can't sleep. I've cried all day today desperate to find if I'm overreacting or if he emotionally cheated on me.

What should I do? I can't function and I am in need of advice.

I know this is hard, but I would separate from him. Trust is essential to a good marriage. If you do not have trust now, you should not marry.

Trust your instincts. I should have at least four years ago and I would not be as miserable as I am right now.

A married man, seperated man, recently divorced man is nothing that I would want to be a part of. They have a lot of feelings that have not been resolved they still have some sort of attachment to the ex and I wouldnt want to be brought into the middle of that. If my husband & I ever got divorced I would feel really sorry for the next women that gets him because I know that he would be an emotional rollercoaster & she would only get hurt in the end. You have been playing with fire and I am not so sure that you want to continue. A marriage is a hard thing to get over and it is even harder to forget your ex. It sounds to me like he still misses her or is still in love with her. I would want to know that the man that I have started to date has gotten over any past relationships that way I know that he is mine and he wont be thinking about her. I got lucky with my husband he never really had any serious girlfriends, in fact I was his first serious relationship and I know that I dont have to worry about an Ex's coming in the picture. The down side to that is that men like that dont know how to have a relationship so you have to teach them and be patient but at least I know that he is all mine. I would really consider leaving at least until the divorce is final. Dont wait around to get hurt.