I met my wife about a year and a half ago, she is a typical party girl and the first night we all went out together she made out with several different people including one of my best friends. Shortly after that when we first began to see eachother she told me she did not want me to continue talking to other women while she continueously talked and even met with someone that she had been sexually involved with. I new about it for a while and let it go hoping that it would just go away with time and instead it only got worse, eventually i confronted her about it and she swore that she was only playing "mind games" with him and it was over. She also promised me no more lies. Things went ok after that for a while until i was deployed to Iraq (i am in the military) upon my arrival to Iraq she began lying all the time as well as going out to clubs with her friends and lying about that as well. I even caught her calling one of her other ex's shortly after i arrived in Iraq. Of course there is a lot more to the story than that, but the bottom line was that the last time i caught her lying she promised she was done living the "party lifestyle" and would no longer go out or lie. I later learned that only a few days later she continued in her decietful ways. However since then she has also began to go to therapy to help our marriage out. Im not sure if she has cheated since i have been here in Iraq, but i definately would not put it past her. I still love her very much and part of the problem is that being over here you tend to forget about all of the good times that you have had in the past. What should i do when i return home in a few weeks?

I would not waste any more time with this woman. To me, life is too short and there are too many women to let some one play games with my life. You deserve better than you're getting exspecially as a war veteran. Let her go so she can party on. You've invested enough time and emotions on someone who doesn't truely respect you

I am female and have been where your wife is now, from my point of view she is using you as I did my husband and she is trying to see how far she can push you and I bet you she is waiting for you to call it quits so that she can blame it on you and not her infidelity. If I were you I would call it quits or better yet start doing the EXACT same things she is and let her actions come back too her. I know that wouldnt be the appropriate thing to do but she wouldnt like the way it felt. You are wasting your time and Im sorry that you are going through this, since I was once like your wife, I know that I have ALOT of secrets and different men I was with that he NEVER knew about and never suspected a thing. But luckily I came to my senses and realized my childrens lives were more important than me having fun or cheating and playing games all the time and I can say that my life is pure and normal now. I hope the best for you. Take care.