I've been in a relationship with a man who seems very attentative and loving - almost everything I've ever wanted in a man. However, we both were in relationships for about 3 years and both ended around the same time. I am over my past relationship but he seems to still dwell on his. I even found out he went to a website/a "blog" and wrote about his ex-girlfriend and how she had cheated on him and how it ruined his relationship, how he was going to marry her, etc... I snooped and found this blog, wrote in it and revealed to him that it was me -- he became angry at me for 'stalking' him like that. While it isn't cheating but more of trying to get over a past relationship, I feel emotionally cheated. Am I over reacting and is this considered 'stalking'?

I don't think it means he isn't into you. Maybe he isn't completely over what happened between him and his ex and needs to vent a little and still talk about it. But i find that I talk about my past relationships even when i am well and truely over it just because they were long and significant relationships in my life and were important at the time. I can see why you might be upset that he didn't come to you to talk about it but he probably thought he was doing the right thing talking it out away from you on net. Don't get too hung up on it if he's a great guy- there aren't that many out there!! haha

I am sorry to hear about your situation. I can feel your pain.

If someone isn't "over" a situation such that they've dragged and PUBLICIZED the nitty-gritty details into a present relationship, that person is NOT available to be in a new relationship.

Rather than admit he has a problem, and rather than commit to getting help for it, your BF has turned the tables on you by manipulation. As many of the articles on this site advise us, we want to believe them and so we fall for it. Not without feeling bone-deep pain and inner turmoil.

If your BF isn't ready to be with you, then he shouldn't hold you "hostage" until he comes to his senses. He needs to step-up to the plate, and be a "man", so to speak.

There's a great show on TLC called "Shalom in the Home", with a website on which you may find more support and practical advice. If that's not enough, there's a fab-book called "He's Just Not That Into You" which is astonishly funny, and helpful to all people who get these mixed-messages in relationships.

I wish you quick resolution and inner peace. Most of all, I wish you the strength to really get what you want. We all deserve to be in a relationship with someone who wants it as much as we do.