I found my partners phone bill 3 years ago and there was alot of the same number. I confronted him and after many lies he told me that it was just friendship and nothing more. We almost split up. The trust was gone then.
We got engaged at Xmas, he proposed and wanted a baby. I got pregnant. Still wasn't sure as I didn't trust him deep down.
I got a call out of the blue from this same girl wanting to track him down. The saying lies always come back to haunt you are so true. She told me everything about their affair even things she could not have possibly have known. I was devastated. When I challenged him he continued to lie, even though I had all the proof. It means the last 3 years have been a total lie. I since had a miscarriage and I have dumped him. She told me that they had kept in touch all this time and he used to tell her how much he loved her but she was in a new relatinship. How could he do this? Has anyone been through the same? I hate him now. But I still am sick wondering why he would go to great lenghts to propose to me if it was her he wanted. I don't want him back ever but I wish I could make sense of it all. Any advice welcomed.

I understand your position completly!! I have issues myself with my boyfriend only he's told me lies about the most pointless things and I sometimes wonder why he even bothers with me if all he wants to do is get his jollies from hurting me. Only I can never fully tell myself it's not worth it because he's a great guy in every other way. I have a post in general discussion if you want to check it out.
I suppose these compulsive liar types just think of themselves and don't bother with the consequence. I think you should consider yourself lucky to have gotten rid of someone who would have continued to hurt you. All the best in the future.

To both of you replying to the topic on liars... Have been married for 22 years to a man who 4 years ago, had an emotional affair that lasted well over a year , on the internet- emailing that is, a woman he met at a conference while I was home with the kids. We went to marriage therapy- waste of time, but I hung on, hoping that he was always , after that point, honest with me about everything. Then, about a year ago, he got a promotion- started to spend more time at work- took me out to lunch one day, and went back to the office- I stopped by to visit him, and caught him on the computer emailing another woman a his company. He swore they were only friends and that he would end it- I stayed again- always still hoping this time he was serious- well, at thanksgiving time I was a mess- found out that he was seeing her- same woman as he was caught emailing a year ago- he lied to me this whole year - told me things like- I'm not seeing anyone- I'm not doing anything I shouldn't be doing...After christmas, I went to see a lawyer and started the separation process- he confessed some when everything hit the fan, but still says he can't talk to me about it- details- because they are "scarring" me-( we simply cannot communicate) I have been scarred by living with a liar for the past 4 years of our 22 year marriage- Who is he? What am I doing putting up with all this destructive doubt and worry? He needs to pay the consequences for not being a faithful, honest,caring, understanding husband- it just makes me sick to think of him with another woman-
Be careful with the boyfriends- lying is a scary thing all the way around- especially to the ones who are supposed to love you the most.
Good luck.