Teresa

I have had a relationship with someone for 17 years who has turned out to be a compulsive liar. We did not live together because I had small children and a small house but was settled in one area. He was recently divorced and wanted some space. We saw each other every weekend and at least one night in the week, Brilliant holidays , Lovely time. We bought a wedding ring for my birthday in Oct 2004 just before his Dad got ill and died and he stopped working and got into finanacial difficulties. All the time he told me everything would be fine and we would be selling both houses and getting married as soon as everything got better, I was worried about his health as he had had chest pains, On 9th Feb I discovered him having died of a heart attack in his house.

Then I discovered he had lied about health check ups and not been to a doctor for years
Been seeing anoher woman for 18 months.
Had been on dating lines for over 2 years
Had made up all sorts of stories with me to cover his affair , about working and networking to get work, about money (he borrowed loads off me )
Lied to the other woman about his best friend having died in a hit and run accident, about his sister and an uncle having died ,about seeing friends he hasnt seen for years. Pretending to be other people on chat lines including pretending to be me who was quite happy he had anew relationship! Told her he was broken up with me but still saw my kids. etc, Then there are the lies he told to people that used to employ him and to banks etc. The lies and elaborate stories he told to the other 5 women he talked to in emails and on chat lines. Now he is gone. I now wonder what was actualy going on for 17 years and what I have been doing with my life. Both myself and the other woman thought he was the love of our lives. We both say we loved him deeply. He was the most wonderful man who made me feel fantastic. I am in total shock.

Hey Teresa,

How sorry i was to hear of your sad loss. Even though he lied and cheated doesn't mean you loved him any less. You will always have the comfort of your good memories together and all the times you laughed and cried together. He has gone now and that will leave a large hole in your life but the sadness will fade and then one day you will find someone new to share the fun times with.

God bless and good luck
lonely girl