A few months ago I found out that my boyfriend had been searching for escorts on Craigslist in the surrounding areas. I confronted him about it and he said he was just curious and had not contacted anyone. I let it go and he said he wouldn't look anymore. Of course I didn't believe that, so I've been trying to keep an eye on him. Last week I found him looking at the same thing. We actually discussed the situation this time without arguing. The thing is he seemed so genuine about changing things. I want to believe we can make everything work. I don't want to waste time and energy if everytime he feels sexually frustrated or annoyed with me he is going to go search for a random women to make him happy for a few minutes. I really havent found concrete evidence that he has gone through with this. So my question is: Am I doing the right thing or is this enough that I should just leave?

Cindy--Only you can decide if what you have seen is enough to leave. If every time he gets frustrated he starts acting out with other women rather than talking it out with you, he isn't relationship material and he isn't trustworthy.If he is acting out he is putting your health at risk. If it feels wrong for you then it is. Good luck and you deserve a man who is faithful.

How long have you guys been together? Remember the old saying "innocent until proven guilty"? I believe that it is human nature to be suspicious and jealous and sometime our minds run wild with insecurities. I am not saying that you arent justified in your feelings I am just saying that sometimes when a trust is broken its hard to get it back. You have every right to worry and wonder at this point. Looking for escorts or other women is not right and if you have caught him doing it again then I would really question wether he has actually cheated or not. I would say to keep your mouth shut, eyes wide open and do some major digging. If you confront him on everything he is just going to hide it even more so just stay silent. When you have enough hard evidence then confront him. I wouldnt say to leave him yet because if you are wrong then you could have just thrown away a man that you love. so make sure that you have enough evidence and then lay it out there for him. I wish you the best of luck, keep your head up!

Perhaps he was just making sure that you didn't have an ad on there.

Well, I have to say that I've recently caught my husband doing pretty much the same thing. He's been looking at personal ads on Craiglist. While I zero proof that he contacted anyone, I know he did look at quit a few postings. This would be bad enough for me to get upset and confront him BUT, I have absolutely NO closure on other things he's done since we've been together (6 years). [Oh, some other blog - some other day].

I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. I have been very seriously researching keylogging software and it seems like WebWatcher is the Mercedes - meaning you can log in and see what's going on at any time from any where. The next best is SpectorSoft or SpectorPro - their eBlaster version. This one does everything WebWatcher does but the eBlaster sends you reports to your email. The non-eBlaster version makes you log onto that computer to view info which is risky. Each are completely invisible (he'll never know it's on his computer) and around $90.

If I get the nerve up to do it, I'll repost somewhere to tell people what I think.

Good luck.

if he is checking out escorts on craig's list, there is a very good chance he is, or will very soon, act on it. take it from someone who has made that mistake myself. men don't shop for escorts just for fun. it is only a matter of time before he acts on it. prepare yourself for some hurt. sorry.