I have been dating this man for 4 months now. We have fallen in love with each other. He is just starting a custody battle with his ex and claims that he cannot give us 100% right now. I am trying to be patient since I really think that I want him as my life partner. I have caught him lying three times now about talking to the woman whom which he dated right before me. They only went out three times. I think he has even went out to lunch with her recently. I have asked him if he has spoken to her lately and how she is doing, but denies any contact with her. He also says that he is not looking for anyone else, and that I am being paranoid. Should I be concerned, or am I being too paranoid? Help!

I believe you are NOT overreacting. Love is blind and you believe anything they tell you and they are good actors. I was involved with someone for 6 yrs that lied over and over. If 4 mos into your relationship you see RED flags, there will be more, trust me! Get out now before you have more time invested and they break your heart.

I think that you are to new to this relationship to judge right now. I can see how he cant give you 100% right now if he has other things to deal with. I say dont jump the gun to quick, keep your eyes open and just watch patterns. 4 months into a relationship is not long enough to determine what kind of a person he is. It takes time and a lot of work to decided if this is the person for you. Take your time and watch for any more red flags.

Proceed with caution! The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. If he lies today, chances are very good that he will lie to you in the future. Watch carefully for inconsistencies in his stories as that is a true indicator that someone is lying.