I have been with my partner on and off for almost a year and a half and we have both worked in the same pub together until recently. He was the pub manager so he lived on the premises and i lived in my home unless i stayed with him for the night.
We had split up for 2weeks end on jan, then i found out i was pregnant and he wanted us to start agin and make it work. So i decided to. Anyway all was going well and in april he moved into my house and we left the pub trade all together. Last week end i found a mobile phone of his that he told me he never had as he was caught by me a while back cheating on me by texing men a woman sexualy. So this phone i found.. i looked through the phone and saw this familiar face on a picture he had. 4 weeks after we got back together and 4weeks after telling hm i was preg, i turned up at the pub earlier then i said i would be there. On getting there this girl walks out with her head down and says "i was here for the cleaning job". I thought this odd as i didnt know he was looking for a cleaner so i questioned him alot. i mean this was 8.30am. This picture was of this girl topless in the pub the night before i saw her in the morning i turned up at the pub. Of course i have had it out with him and he denyed it all until i showed him the pic, then he said "nothing happend" and promised me he never slept with her and she never stayed the night. To be honest i dont believe him at all, how would she be there so late at night taking her clothes off and then being there early the next morning for a job interview?

Please someone help me as i am now 22wks pregnant and this is stressing me out so much.

Sorry to say this but you will never know the real truth. He is going to deny it, there is no sense in even bringing it up because he will never tell you the truth. I would keep an eye on things and see if there are any more red flags. I am sorry but you will never know what really happened and you need to focus on yourself right now.

That baby cant handle the stress that you are causing. You need to worry about you and just keep your eyes open. I can also tell you that I have never believed in staying with someone for the sake of a baby. That is the wrong way to do things and it will never work out. That baby would be happier with 1 parent then with 2 that dont really have a relationship. Children are smart and if you stay with this guy and he continues on with his some what questionable behavior then that child will grow up thinking its ok for him to do that.

First thing is you, then baby and lastly him. You cant care for that baby if you are not well and stressing over something that you have no control over is not healthy.

I would say that I would have questioned him to. i am sure that he probably told her that his girlfriend was coming and for her to leave. That would be my first thought, but like I said you will never know. Either you live the rest of your life wondering or you just say screw it!

The choice is yours, just remember that baby needs a healthy envirnment to live in.