Well I have never done this before so i thought hey why not there has to be others that are going thru the same thing as me. So here it is goes and i hopet someone is able to help in some sort of way

I met this guy like a year and half ago. After 2 month of not even dating because he told me that he didn't want a gf and we were just messing around he told me that he loved me. I didn't believe him because i don't belive people when they tell me that after just 2 months of knowing eachother. He does have some down fall. One of the most major down falls he has is that he really loves to drink. At first i didn't know if icould handle he was so drunk to the point that he could drive. he would always say that he was too drunk to come over. When jan rolled around i slept with another guy because i didn't feel that his guy could give me what i wanted for me and my daughter. As time went on i was in the wrong and went on a date with a guy and slept with 3 others. I know it was wrong, but i just wasn't attracted to him anymore because of how he was. He could hold a job becuase drinking took over at one point. As time he would ask ??'s i was in the wrong for lieing to him about what was going on. Again he told me that he didn't want a gf, i didn't know if i could handle him with his drinking. At one pt i told hin that he had to quite drinking for 2 months and i would give him my decidion if i really wanted to be with him. During his 2 month recovering is one time when i cheated on him. I lied to him about the detail parts he know i messed he gets mad when i don't explain the details. What do i do? There are times when are relationship is great but when he starts drinking it all comes up then goes away comes back. it just like a cyle. Me and my gf's think that he bipolor. Example i was with him all weekend, Today tuesday is the first day we are apart. He is acting like an asshole again. But now at this stage he thinks it is okay to cheat on me becuase i did it. He has already 5 girls he says thats not enough. He has to get back at me. I am not the type to let things bother. i take it in and then i let it go. He holds onto everything.

I just want to know what do? He thinks i did things that i didn't do. I want to take a lie dect. test just to prove him wrong but am also not sure where to go for that either.

So if anyone has any advice on what to do please help me. I love him so much and he know that to. He tells me that hte loves me all the time and if he didn't he wouldn't come back to me after all that he has done too.

Let me tell you, 2 wrongs dont make a right! he is using your cheating as an excuse to sleep with other girls. Your relationship is unhealthy. He drinks, cheats, you cheat, lies and I am sure the list goes on.

My husband use to have a bad drinking problem & he would get really mean when he drank. After about 4 months of being with him I flat out told him that I couldnt handle it anymore. It was me or the alchole. Guess what he stoped drinking, he did it because he knew that he was better than that & because he knew that I would walk out the door.

My husband accuses me all the time of stuff I didnt do. There is nothing that you can do to fix that. It comes from within themselves & no lie detector test is going to solve that problem, trust me I know!

You have to make up your mind right now for you and your child of wether or not you want an unstable relationship. If you want your child to wonder if he is coming home tonight or not. I can tell you that my husband & I have had a hard road with his insecurities & accusations, it hasnt been easy.

BUT my husband has never cheated & neither have I. No matter how insecure he gets he is always there. He never just leaves us and he never cheats on me.

This relationship is nothing but problems & you need to think about that child first, before you think of yourself or him that child is #1!

WOW...OK GIRL, U REALLY NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP! U ARE BOTH BEING UNFAITHFUL TO EACH OTHER, AND THEN ADMITTING IT! U HAVE A LIL GIRL...RIGHT?? SO WHY WOULD U WANT TO BE W/SOMEONE WHO DRINKS?? U WANT HER TO SEE HIM DRUNK...BEING STUPID, ETC?
THE ONLY WAY A PERSON WILL STOP DRINKING...IS IF THEY WANT TO STOP! U CAN NOT MAKE HIM! IF HE DOES IT FOR U...HE WILL END UP REGRETING IT AND THEN USUALLY GET ANGRY WITH U!
ASK URSELF, DO U REALLY WANT TO DEAL WITH UR OWN INFIDELITY, HIS INFIDELITY AND HIS DRINKING PROBLEM?? U REALLY WANT UR DAUGHTER AROUND ALL OF THAT?? CHILDREN CAN SENSE THINGS...AND SEE MORE THAN WE GIVE THEM CREDIT FOR! I PERSONALLY, HAVING TWO KIDS, WOULDNT EVEN IMAGINE HAVING A DRUNK IN THEIR LIVES! NOT A WAY FOR CHILDREN TO GROW UP!
IF U REALLY LOVE URSELF, THEN LET HIM GO! IF HE REALLY LOVES HIMSELF, HE WILL GET HELP!! REMEMBER THAT...HE HAS TO LOVE HIMSELF FIRST, BEFORE HE CAN LOVE U! AN ALCOHOLIC IS ALWAYS AN ALCOHOLIC, AND ONCE THEY REALILZE THEY ARE...IT BECOMES EASIER...BUT TILL THEY DO ADMIT IT, WELL ITS JUST HELL!
I HOPE U DO WHATS GOOD FOR U AND UR DAUGHTER...NEITHER OF U NEED TO BE IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP. IF UR IN ONE, SO IS UR LIL GIRL!