Hi , thanks for the feedback. It's kind of complicated but the age thing never came up it was all so wierd it was just put out there and I think what you ay about honesty etc is important of course it is but would you be able to FORGIVE this one age discrepancy . Say there were no other lies and it was just this one would you be able to forgive ? I'm sure your daughter is great and you can tell that you love her to death but it can't just be the age thing on its own? Can it ? See that's what gets me if it's just that how is he going to get through bigger things in life that may be more important . Do you think I should say sorry then ? He's not talking to me right now . How come other couples can survive infidelity, bigger lies, substance abuse and so much more ? Doesn't say much for our relationship at all does it can't even survive that. It kind of makes me out to be a huge failure too. Perhaps you should discuss age at the start of a relationship and not at the end but if it really wasn't ever an issue and has only just become one it needs to be worked out. I didn't actually lie about my age I just never brought it up . He assumed I was younger and I let him think that . So it's all to do with honesty and I can understand that better but if everything else is fine and he's homing in on that it makes me feel totally worthless.

I do agree the age wasnt the only thing that made me leave. He had many other lies behind that one. If there were no other lies then yes maybe I could have gotten over it. He was 11 years older so there is a bigger gap. Maybe your guy just needs sometime to get over it. Maybe he is in shock, or maybe he is just an ass! Regardless of why he left you are probably better off. Your right if he is going to run away over 5 years age difference then your better off without him. I say give him his space and maybe he will realize that this has nothing to do with who you are as a person. I never mean to come off wrong or nasty towards you but from what I read it didnt sound right. I understand more now & I do agree that if there was no more lies then there is no reason to just leave. Everyone is different and men in general run from problems rather than face them head on. I think that tthere is more behind why he left that maybe you dont even know. Maybe there is some underling issues that you never knew about. Any case you wont know now and maybe its just time for you to have some fun.

Hi, and thanks again for the feedback. It's really ok I didn't take offence I am just confused that guys do think that way ! But to be honest and open if he did just leave because of that I'm not sure I could even be with him anymore!

I do appreciate everything you said and I am not in any way offended you could easily have misunderstood my initial post as i worded it wrong .

Peace to you and thanks for the advice . Just goes to show you don't know everything about everyone no matter how many intimate momments you shared with them. All we can do is learn and get better with time .

Hi, No I don't think you should say sorry ! Who cares that he thought you were younger what is the big deal?Men are so wierd sometimes . Tell me who hasn't told little white lies about their age now and again men as well as women ! It's a load of old baloney he was looking for a way out and used this stupid little thing as a convenient exit route . What a horrible insensitve creep. I'm sorry but this is ridiculous and now you're feeling low and like it's your fault.It takes two to tango . If he hadn't been such a stuck up little S*** in the first place would this have even been an issue ? Like he has no flaws at all. Leave him he 'll learn what he's missing in his life one day and to think he threw it all away because he thought 5 summers and winters was just too much of a gap ! You leave and find yourself someone even younger why not ?Good luck and don't feel guilty.

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As someone who is married to a man 13 years younger, I think that yes, age can make a difference in a relationship but only if there are other problems to start with. For example, I am the oldest but that is not a problem to me because I am an honest loving person who is in this marriage for the right reasons. I have respected my husband throughout our 20 years of marriage, and helped him with his career and to build his empire. On the other hand, my husband has treated me badly, cheated on me, separated me from my children from a previous marriage and constantly puts me down. Is it to do with our age difference? Would he still be the selfish ego centric man he is if I had been younger? The answer is YES! I don't think our problems are related to my age, but, if I had been younger, I might have had the courage to walk away a long time ago instead of putting myself through 20 years of misery. I suppose what I am saying is that age can be a problem only if you allow it to be. Count yourself lucky you have escaped from what might have been a disastrous relationship. For a relationship to thrive there must be respect on both sides. Have more confidence in yourself thats all I would say to you.

I thought this post was really thoughtful , honest and brave . Women should not have to worry so much about things like age if they are true in their feelings . Reading what has happened to the op I wonder if your BF had no inkling about your age he would probably have found something else to end things as he seems a little extreme in his reaction. No Scratch that I would say very extreme.

Take heart from this post and realise that there are people out there who will love and respect you for you . Judging someone on their age kind of reminds me like that bottle of wine sketch well they do say the more mature ones are better.

As for me I was curious about the problem as my husband of 1 year is 8 years younger than me and he doesn't know it . It's never come up and I doubt it will but I am wondering now if I should tell him! Perhaps in view of what's happened here I'll just let sleeping dogs lie but it's definitely piqued my interest in the whole male/ female debate and equality issues . Good luck and remember love is blind to age, race religion and colour what really matters is just between you and him/her .

Good Luck