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[b]jennifer wrote:[/b]
[quote]i can offer you some insight into a liar's mind, i'm 29 years old and my youngest brothe is 22, and a patholical liar. when he was about 19 my brother began to lie about everything under the sun, and my parents and his girlfriend and i caught him in some pretty bizar lies, so many infact that as a family (including the girlfriend) went to a counsler together, we went on a weekly bases and my brother continued to lie to the counsler week after week, until finally he felt cornered and told us all the truth, he had done nothing wrong, he was not a theif or murderer, nothing and even though suspected he had never cheated and never would, but he did give us his reason for lieing but he didn't know he was lying. i know this sounds strange, trust me living it was bizar. 
he felt that if he lied it made him sound like a more intresting person and people would like him better and want to be around him more, he wanted everyone to be proud of him and praise him for things, he wanted his friends to think he was greatest thing since slices bread. in truth he wasn't happy with himself and he thought the lying would make him appear to be a better person. 
like i said he didn't know he was lying, liars have a way of beliving there own lie and if they retell a lie 2 people will get the exact same story, because the liar sees it as the truth. 
at one point in the counsling i sugested that my brother be hypmotised (sorry i'm a bad at spelling) and the counsler said that it wouldn't work because he belived the lies to be truth.
this may not make much sense and i'm sorry but you may want to get medical help for your wife and the story she told you maybe just because she wants you to belive she is a good wife, or maybe the best wife in the world she may be terified of being alone and that fear has caused her to lie to you with the most outlandish stories to show you that she is the best thing since sliced bread. 
what i can tell you is that if she doesn't get help for her problem she will become a better liar, just like anything practice makes perfect even with a liar, but once she hits that point you may not be able to tell the lies from truth and neither will she and she will be much happier living in her fantsy world she has created than in reality and she will try to bring you with her. 
and i have just one more thing to add, one thing that we did that was helpful in stopping my brother from lying was to not use the word lying or liar but ask him if he was telling us a story, using the word story does not provoke the person to defend themselves by making the lie more elabriate or bigger. 
i hope some of this helps i feel for you and can relate to the heatache you must feel. on a brighter note my brother still lies on occasion but is able to catch himself now and will tell the truth, it is a long process but there is a light at the end of the tunnel you can't see it yet but i promise it's there. 
 good luck and we are all here for you[/quote]

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