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I have been married for 7 years and have 2 children. I believe we have a very strong honest and open marriage. I feel very lucky and brag to my friends all the time. Comments
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written by djl , 14 June, 2006
After processing what happened to me I believe my emotions have calmed down and we are all only human. Anybody is capable of making a mistake at least once. I forgive my wife and don't think it will happen again. And want to thank all who responded and gave comments.
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written by Ven Haris , 19 March, 2007
Forgive your wife and START COMMUNICATING!!
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The person is right on when they said most people who have been cheated on would envy your situation! report abuse
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written by x , 29 November, 2007
I am in the same situation right now and don't know how to feel it happened to me about a week ago now. My wife did not have a friend there to stop her and she remembers kissing him. It did not go any farther then that but he wanted it to and she turned him down. I am wondering will she do it again she told me when we got home what happened and that she loves me and married me and wants to be with me. What do I do?
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written by the wife , 03 January, 2008
For "x" and all others in this situation:
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I am the wife who has kissed another while extremely inebriated; however, I panicked and stopped it at a kiss. I felt all giddy and romantic (like when I was a teenager) until the next day when I felt horrible for betraying my husband like that! I've been married 12 wonderful years, and after much consideration and advice-seeking, I decided not to tell my husband because I know that he's my one true love and that it would only hurt him for me to admit such a weakness. I also realized that the "romantic, giddy" emotions were purely alcohol-induced. I am not AT ALL attracted to the other man! My husband and I have joked quite a bit about "open" relationships and "what happens in fill-in-the-blank stays in fill-in-the-blank," but I know now for certain that I will never do anything to seriously jeopardize my marriage! report abuse
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written by GoingInsane Aj , 20 February, 2008
Not even gonna read the other comments. You have a GOOD woman. Count yourself lucky that she is confident enough in you and your marriage to admit right off the bat that she screwed up. I would let my wife kiss 100 guys if I only knew I could trust her to tell me. And man, a kiss? It happens, get past that. She felt bad or she wouldn't have told ya.
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written by BT , 11 June, 2008
I don't think you should trust her again. I wife cheated on me not long ago. I found out that she kissed the guy and also consider him as her "honey". Anyway, after I knew I found out and she sorry and said it wont happen again. But after many thinking. I came to a conclusion is that once she are able to kiss another guy, that means she has no feelings with you anymore. No matter how she felt sorry for what she's done, you'd never get back a love like before. It's very said but put it to an end is good for both of you.
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written by Somebody , 23 June, 2008
Well I was in similar situation, I went with my single girl friend to night club,while my husband was traveling in California. The girl that was with me met a group of young men, some of them were from Boston. I didn't plan to meet anybody, but I met him, young, gorgeous and hot 100% Italian 24 years old. He told me so many complements about how I look, how beautiful I am. We started to kiss like crazy, I will be honest, I hadn't felt that happy in a long time. My husband is only concerned about my visits to the Gym and he is always negative about my looks and during sex he doesn't like to kiss at all.
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So in this crazy evening I felt drunk and happy but something stop me of having sex with this hottie in the end. I am not a woman who is looking for just fun for night. I didn't leave my phone or email and just ran away from that club, next days I was thinking how beautiful could be sex with him. I think that my husband is guilty because he put me in that position - where there no life exists for me as a woman and sex is not so important. I realize that it is wrong to kiss somebody. But being ignored by your own husband is 10 times more wrong!!! report abuse
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written by Reno , 24 June, 2008
I took my wife to a wine tasting. At the end there was a raffle, my wife went to the bar to get a drink and as they were about to begin the raffle I went to get her. I saw her hug and kiss another man... it took everything in me not to beat the s#!t out of him and walk away from our 20 year marriage. I am still dealing with this and trying to figure out what to do... I don't know if the advice they gave you is good, I'm too close to my own situation... good luck.
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written by even , 14 November, 2008
I found out my wife of 3 years was seeing someone, no sex but kisses and cuddles. My world is rubbish now and I feel sorry for my kids. I would never trust her again, If there is communication problems she should say so!!!!!!! Kissing someone is NOT acceptable. My wife cries all the time but I don't care. I would never trust her again!
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written by ??? , 19 November, 2008
My husband and I have had a pretty good and frequent sex life until I severely injured my back two months ago. It made sex impossible and painful. So we stopped trying. Two weeks ago he spent the day drinking with the boys and possibly getting high. That night we went to a party I had to work early and left him there. He woke me when he got home a told me he messed around with a girl at the party. They didn't have sex partly because he was too drunk to get hard and partly because something spotted him. He swears that if he hadn't been so drunk it wouldn't have happened. And is sorry and wants to stay together yada yada everything ya'll have heard. And I am hurt and angry and sad etc. It hasn't happened before, he has cut way back on the beer. And made good on every promise since then. So is he forgivable/trustworthy or a lost cause?
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written by tacoman , 21 November, 2008
My kissed another man on a works night out and met him a few times after that.
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She told me what happened during sex one night and what a turn on I found it my boring wife has a dark side. Now we use it to our advantage looking at and watching hardcore porn, sitting in pubs asking each other who we find attractive. It is a turn on but only to get each other hot and horny. report abuse
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written by Sure! , 02 January, 2009
Somebody, no offense, but your husband didn't put you in that position if you didn't tell him how you feel about things. If you told him you want to kiss more and so on and he didn't care, then I agree.
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written by Kirby , 04 January, 2009
My best friend just cheated on her fiance with my "honey's" brother who has a girlfriend who he is planning to ask to marry and a 4 month old son. Her Fiance is one of my friends and I do not know weather or not to tell him. Not to mention the fact that my "honey's" brother is, well my "honey's" brother. I know I have been cheated on before and it hurts like a bitch. I am glad that I found out that they cheated so that I could break it off. Have you heard the phrase "once a cheater, always a cheater?" Well I believe that to be true to an extent. If they cheated on an "EX" that doesn't necessarily mean that they will cheat on you. You are a different person and a different situation. But if they cheat on you, well then I believe they do not have enough respect for you or their relationship with you to be with you. Therefor it should end. If they said they love you, then they shouldn't have done that so they really don't. Even if they were REALLY drunk that they don't "remember" I think that's a bunch of bologna because their subconscious still knows that they have a husband/wife and they shouldn't be in the situation in the first place. And when they start crying and apologizing about how bad they feel, it's not because they care about you, (or they wouldn't be in the situation they are in), it's because they care about the fact that you are mad at them. No one likes when someone is mad at them. It's plain science of the human emotion.
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written by Sour2444 , 06 January, 2009
Married 8 years and kissed another women. I went to a bar one night to shoot pool because I could not sleep. My wife was taking care of her sick mother (this makes it worse). I was shooting pool and had a few nice people come and ask me if they could play too. I agreed. Three pints in one hour I was ready to leave, starting to feel the affects, and the man asked if I could take two of the girls home, they lived in the same direction as me. I agreed (first mistake). A married man should not drive any girls home. But the alcohol impaired my judgment and I agreed.
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I dropped off the first girl and got to the second girls house and she asked me if I had to use the rest-room or anything before I left. I did have to urinate badly so I said yes. I went in (second mistake). While in the rest-room I was noticing the affects of the alcohol. I left the rest-room and she called me into the living room to see the lights on the water. She walked over to the bar and asked me If I wanted a drink. third mistake - I should have bolted but being drunk now I just said no and was oblivious that she was hitting on me. She then kissed me and I did not push her away. I kissed her back for a few seconds and then freaked out inside. I told her I had to go. She wanted my number and I said no and I left. I told my wife of 8 years about what happened and it broke her heart. The worst feeling in the world is hurting the one you love the most. There was no excuse for what I did and I am now trying to save my marriage and my family. We have a four year old son too. What do I want from this? I want my wife to be able to eventually forgive me. She is the love of my life. What do I want from myself? To be the best man I can be. I have a lot of demons of my own and I get cocky sometimes about where I am in life. This event has changed my life. They way I view my wife,family, and the way I view myself. If you are reading any of these stories and you have not cheated yet, DON'T do it. It is far reaching. Not only the immediate family but friends, and your spouses work, and your child's school, and your work. It affects everything in you life and everyone you are in contact with. report abuse
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written by devasted , 13 January, 2009
I just found out my wife kissed a guy. we have been married 10 years and have 4 kids. This last year has been awful and I treated her poorly being very jealous and controlling. I found an email from this guy to her saying he was going to call her on her birthday but reconsidered, and that he was trying to get to see her at her work but it was hard. He is married as well. After seeing the email I asked her why he was so obligated to her and she said she hugged him. I have been suspicious and accusing of their relationship since its inception. She eventually admitted that it was a kiss. they see each other at meetings. She told me that it would never have happened if our marriage was good. She used him to get compliments and to complain about me and then he went for a kiss. She jumped back at first surprised and said she never cheated and was very nervous. He tried again and she let him. What should I do? tell his wife? get a divorce? forgive and move on? we live in the same town so I will have to see him at things like kids sporting events. they may have to see each other again sometimes at events unless I make her or him quit.
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written by aweful wife ): , 25 January, 2009
I have just recently told my husband about a huge mistake I've made. About a month & a half ago I kissed a guy, I was horribly drunk [which is not an excuse]. I knew I had to tell him I just couldn't figure out the way to go about it.. I love him dearly, he's been the love of my life since I was 16. He's in the military and currently away. I've missed him so much going on 6 months.
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When I kissed that guy, I guess I was trying to fill the void. I missed his touch and his hand, his eyes - everything. I was battling my own personal demons [which is not an excuse as well]. The stress of raising a baby on my own while he is gone. Emotionally neglected... and alone. I feel awful about it, I think its possibly the worst feeling in the world betraying the one you vow to spend the rest of your life with. How could I be so destructive?! I hate myself for it everyday. I not only jeopardized our family, but our marriage. And for what? I regret everything about that incident. I feel my husband will never look at me or feel the same about me ever again. & I think that's what hurts the most. That I lost that. I don't know how many times I've cried over this. Thought about leaving the city I live in because of the way I feel. But I know I could never leave my family or my husband. For the foolish way I acted. & we have a beautiful 7month old daughter together. What was I thinking!? ): He is my world and I've promised to never drink like that ever again. I am deeply committed to my marriage to make it work. I will do anything it takes. I am truly lucky to have someone like my husband to stand by me, someone with so many insecurities and doubt about them self, and work through this. It's gonna take a lot to get back to the way we were. If we can ever. But I'm in it 100%. I look back on that night with so much regret and today I feel like I don't even know myself.. That was so out of my element. How I've said I hate cheaters and look at me, I'm one of them now, it sucks. I'm a hypocrite and a cheater ): I love my husband, I don't care about all that crap about if you really love someone you wouldn't do it, I know I messed up pretty bad. But that doesn't change the fact that the love I have for him could be destroyed by my own actions. He has a special place in my heart and soul and whatever the outcome of this situation, he will always remain there forever. I guess my word of advice. If you're married try to avoid situations like those. I haven't seen that guy since it happened I hope I never do, I am embarrassed with myself. Don't get so drunk your good judgment is impaired, & love you're significant other like there was no tomorrow. I'm trying my hardest to become a better person, woman, mother, wife and most of all to regain the love and trust my husband once had for me. I can no longer hold my head up high because of the ugliness I feel inside. I love you babe. xoxooxxoxxo(: report abuse
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written by Illinois , 24 March, 2009
My wife started receiving messages from two old boyfriends on facebook. She flirted, wrote about past intimate experiences with them and then bragged to friends about it. I found out. She lied to my face about it over and over, but I had the proof. Now she's says all the right things, regret, etc, but the fact is, it was a complete betrayal. I will never trust her again. It is impossible. We have two young children that she obviously could not give a crap about destroying their lives in a divorce. I am staying for the kids and hoping to work through this, but she ruined our marriage. I suspect she has done more and will do so again. She denies this passionately, but why would I ever believe her? If she is telling the truth and nothing else happened and she does regret it, well it's to late because the trust is gone. Mt advice, avoid doing anything that causes this kind of mistrust. The person will never get over it, even if he or she stays with you. They will hate you for it. I know I do.
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written by armywife , 23 May, 2009
My husband kissed another women at his birthday party this morning.We have been together for six years and everyone told us we had the perfect marriage.His friends got his smashed and I was up until midnight for his 25th birthday. I went to bed because I am six months pregnant and we have three other children. I woke up at 345 am and my husband and his friends gf are both missing. My neighbor across the street told me that he was kissing our friends gf and they left together walking..I woke up our friend and ask him if he knew where his gf was and we went looking for my husband and his gf..My husband doesn't remember anything but the girl admitted they kissed a couple of time (peck or passionate IDK) and they went for a walk. His friend called him when he got up and told him what happened.. I have never seen my husband cry since we have been together and he was upset saying i deserve better but I love him he's my life we have wonderful children together.. So in a way I am in the same boat this soldier is only vise verse, I told him I am hurt and he has to earn my trust back. I just don't know why he did it, I have always been told alcohol brings the truth out of people..
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written by Dead inside , 23 June, 2009
My wife of 1.5 years and girlfriend of 7 told me that she kissed another man at her work. He is 46 and she is 24. She was not drunk, completely sober and made out with him for five minutes. She said she is not attracted to him but he constantly gives her compliments and has told her that he loves her, he is also married. She said she loves me but doesn't think she is in love with me. She is having doubts because I am the only person she has ever been with. We are best of friends, that have the same goals in life, but our intimacy is lacking. I have completely trusted her throughout our marriage, i was a little more controlling and questioned things more before our marriage.
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Its strange because I feel dead inside, I dont have the excitement that I previously had about our relationship that I had just before hearing this news and I don't have a lot of emotion about this situation except for the initial rush of adrenaline filled anger that swept throughout my body upon first hearing of this make-out session. I feel like i should be crying, because I am not the one that usually bottles up feelings, but i am not crying, and I dont know where to go from here. I think the main reason I do not want to get a divorce is because I think of it as failing and she is my best friend, but when I think as if we were just boyfriend and girlfriend I would break it up immediately and not talk to her for a long time, Any thoughts? report abuse
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written by me too , 08 July, 2009
I'm also feeling very sad and lost. I've been married for over 10 years, we have the best relationship (or I thought). My husband went on a trip got drunk and kissed a complete stranger. He came home upset and crying and thought I would leave him. He said he wasn't even attracted to her. I'm trying to be okay with this. I cry when he's not around, I don't understand. Now all I can do is sit around and feel like I did something wrong, and I feel like I can't trust him. But I love him so much I don't know what to do... I can't imagine life without him. I can't help but doubt myself and our marriage every time I turn around. I don't know if he will kiss someone else because I don't understand why he would do this to me? So lost.
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written by Mizzshan , 31 July, 2009
Wow, that to me is amazing. I found this post because I was looking for help in my own marriage. I am 37, been with my husband for 15 years. We have three amazing kids. I keep trying to talk to him and understand why he shuts down, he wont talk for days and he is really mean and angry most of the time. I do love him and dont want to end our marriage. I keep finding texts from a woman to him though. He says he does not know who is sending them. I asked him; if he was cheating to just leave and let me live. As it is, I cant understand it; men find me very attractive, strangers tell me often that they think I am beautiful, I know I am nice, I work, I cook, I do not use credit cards or use money that we dont have. We rent our apartment; I have asked to try and buy a home but he refuses. We share a car, I mean, I dont ask for anything that I know he can not give Except...I ask for love. Hugs, kisses, to be held and just loved. I'd be so happy if he called me something nice, played around with me and even just a simple good morning would do. I dont drink, smoke or anything. I am so tired of trying to talk about our problems because he just says nothing is wrong and that I am starting trouble. I know if I break under this pressure, I will leave him and maybe that is what he wants. Our kids adore him, we both love them very much, I think they would be crushed if we divorce. Can you offer me any advice?
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written by Manvinder S. Bhullar , 03 August, 2009
As a kid, I read an article in the Reader's Digest about betrayal & cheating in a marriage. The lesson I learned in there has been very useful for me. Basically, if you did something wrong once, have no intention to do it again & are feeling guilty about it, do NOT tell your spouse. Telling them will achieve almost nothing positive, no matter how much you love them or they love you.
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Ask yourself what you hope to achieve by confessing your misdeed? Mostly it results in hurting your partner. Think you can rid yourself of your guilt by telling them? Maybe. But what actually happens is you're transferring your guilt to them because they end up wondering day & night if they are inadequate in any way which resulted in your cheating. Even if you say sorry over & over and promise it won't happen again, it leaves lasting scars on your relationship and your partner will always be wondering what you're up to in the periods of your absence, even if you're on a trip with the Pope. So, think before you spill the beans. Do you love your partner and don't want them to suffer because of you? Then learn to keep a secret. report abuse
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written by srm , 02 September, 2009
My best friend is also my wifes best friend. They talk all the time and I never had a problem with it. The other night he was over and when people smoke, they go in my back hall. My wife and my friend were in the back hall smoking, I thought. The door was open a little and I could see their reflection in the window. I watch my best friend lean towards my wife and start making out. It took everything I had not to kill him, but my son was in the other room. I confronted my wife afterward. She got very upset and said that was the first time that had happened. They always flirted with each other, but I trusted both of them not to take it any further then that. They both said it didn't mean anything, and that they don't know why it happened. I am torn apart about it for I love my wife, and she is my whole world. About 15 years ago, my wife confessed to me that she had slept with him just before we got married. She told me it didn't mean anything back then, like she is saying that it didn't mean anything the other night when I saw them with their tongs down each others throats. Any advice how I can forgive and forget what happened. I still can't forget about them sleeping together 20 years ago.
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written by Bradical , 09 September, 2009
I just recently got married to the love of my life. June 27th, 2009 to be exact. We had the most amazing relationship. Just before our marriage and immediately after the honeymoon we have been so busy that we haven't got a chance to really spend quality time with each other. I left to meet my brother in a bordering state who was coming back to the States from Iraq. My wife couldn't come with me because of work. A week later, she confesses that on the night I left to meet my brother she went out with some friends from work and ended up kissing one of the guys and even slept in his bed. There were others who stayed at the party as well. She was very very drunk. She said it didn't go further than that but she wasn't sure because she was so inebriated. I ended up having a serious anxiety attack after hearing all this. She is deeply sorry and ended up contacting the guy with me listening in. She asked if it went any further than kissing and he said no. She then told him that she told me and she loves me and it was all a big mistake. She did this on her own free will. He got really mad at her for telling me and hung up. She told me she still has feelings for him and she wished they would go away. Ouch. I understand having feelings of infatuation for another is natural no matter how much your in love, but acting on those feelings is wrong on so many levels. I'm scared for my health and hers so I made an appointment for us both to go to marital counseling. I hope this helps me get through my anxiety and trust her again. I hope it helps her communicate her feelings to me better. I love her so much and I just want these horrible feelings to go away. She loves me deeply as well. I know this happened because I wasn't there for her. I don't want to put all the blame on her. I feel terrible inside and I want to forgive her and go on with our marriage. Does anyone have any success stories after going to marriage counseling?
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written by annon , 16 December, 2009
i never thought my wife would do this to me, but she kissed a man at her office chritmas party, i have forgiven her simply because
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1 she told me that night 2 i can see she is very upset with her self 3 she was very drunk but it still does not take away the pain i am feeling, i feel somewhat betrayed, other questions going round my head, what did/didnt i do for this to happen, will our marriage survive this? i dont know i want it too but i will have to wait and see, i dont know if my feelings towards what happened will get better or worse report abuse
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written by Ammo Can , 07 January, 2010
My wife and I were at a football game and drinking heavy. We ended up meeting a two guys after the game and went into a bar together.
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She said she had to go to the bathroom. After a few minutes I noticed one of the guys we were with was gone to. I went to go check on her and found them against the wall. They were kissing. I immediately shouted and he took of right away. I went after him but lost him in the crowd. She said he waited for her to come out of the bathroom and kissed her and she did not know what to do. I find the whole thing odd. She was gone for quite a while it seemed. Is my timing that good? It was obvious he was kissing her but she sis not move, or push him away, or slap him. I am really hurt. She still contends she did not do anything and it was all him. What do you guys think? report abuse
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written by ............................................... , 01 February, 2010
the other night my fiance's best friend, his g/f (one of my best friends) and i went out drinking. I was so smashed i didnt even know what bar we were at until someone told me the next day. He and i went to warm the car up while she paid her tab and somehow or another ended up kissing. She came out and saw us. i have no memory of this. well he called my fiance who is working out of town and told him what happened right after. well me and his g/f didnt know he did that so we get a call from my fiance and we both say nothing happened it was all a big misunderstanding. (i would have never told him b/c it meant nothing and would never happen again)so he caught me lying to him about it on top of all of this. His friend says he initiated it thats why he told him. im so scared that he will never love me the way he did. I was his good girl, who would never do anything like that.i took him back years ago after he had been cheating on me and now i feel like he should cut me a little slack. but if the roles were reversed i would probably lose my sh&*. i feel so hopeless. he is my life and i can't live without him.
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written by LaylaLove25 , 27 February, 2010
I am wrecked with guilt. I am married a 29 year old. Been married a little over year. I went out two nights ago with some classmates and the teacher after a final in one of my classes. The professor was there and got wrecked. Seriously we were all wasted. He's very attractive and laid back but an insane drunk. Inappropriate drunk. He told me I did not do so well on the final. I got worried because I can get kicked out of my school program for getting bad grades. He proceeded to tell me if I make out with him I can get an A. He moved in close and I closed my eyes and did it. Seriously 3 seconds later I pulled away and freaked. I feel gross and dirty and horrible. The two classmates there I don't know well and I can't help thinking they think I am a dirty slut, I have to see them in school for the next 2 years.
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I did get an A but think I don't deserve it. Now I have the professor again next semester which starts in a week. Ugh I don't think I should tell my husband because he will get so angry and probably beat the shit out of my teacher. If anything he would call the school and get him kicked out but probably me too! Feels good to get the story out of my head. I love my husband and since this I have felt more love for him than before. But now what? I am so nervous to go back to class and see Dr. Pervert. report abuse
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written by J.S. , 28 February, 2010
I agree with the post about not telling. If your spouse would never find out that you did something ONCE and you know you will never do it again, do not tell. It will only hurt him/her. The guilt that you are living with is eating you up and it is one of the worst things to live with. Why make him or her live with that guilt too? It just does not make sense. It suck living with the guilt. But that guilt does serve a purpose. It prevents you form making the same mistake twice!
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written by never drinking again , 29 March, 2010
I was out with my bf the other night, his best friends wedding, and we were all having a good time. After the wedding we all went to the bar. later on when we left my bf tells me that I kissed his friend on the lips, the one that got married, and I couldn't believe it. I have never done this before and was pretty drunk, not that that is an excuse. I remember everything about the night even leaving and giving his friend a peck on the cheek but do not remember kissing him on the lips, my bf is still with me but I have lost a lot of his trust and am beating myself up for it happening even worse is that I don't remember doing it. I was in complete shock when he told me the next day. I couldn't believe that I put my future with him in jeopardy for a vodka and cranberry. Never drinking again.
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written by P.O. , 03 May, 2010
My wife and I went to a bar with some friends. During the night we all got wasted. My wife was feeling me up, and then my friend ( or at least that's what I thought) leaned over and kissed my wife right in front of me. Not once but three times. My wife didn't even push him away. The night was over for me, I was pissed. So I went to wait in the vehicle. My wife came to, but fail asleep quick. She claims she didn't remember, but that is too convenient for me. Frankly I don't want to even see her at this point. Am I wrong or is she? We were all drinking, which is no excuse.
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written by deeply hurt & lost , 07 September, 2010
I'm no married person. I have a beautiful girlfriend who i love a lot and we have 10 months together. She went on this trip with some friends and I couldn't go so she repeatedly assure me she wasn't capable of doing anything. I believed her and thought i had nothing to worry. The next day a friend of mine sends me a text saying he saw her kissing this boy. Days before this, she told me she found this guy cute and nice looking (in a kinda joke way) I felt terrible, I remember telling her right before it happened to have trust in me and to tell me if anything happened. I told her i wouldn't get mad if she trusted me enough, but she didnt. My ex, did the same thing, made out with a friend and then hid it from me and told everyone to say it never happened. She always told me she was completely different, that she would never even think of doing something like that, and she does the same thing, she hid the whole thing from me, even told me that how could it be that i believed the rest before her. She eventually told me the truth. She never drinks so she was more than conscious. She told me the guy was really drunk and he tried to kiss her a couple of times while dancing but she ran her face away, but she kept dancing with him, and then he went for it and ended kissing her and she says she backed out right away. Idk what to trust anymore. I dont know whats the truth or if its all made up. If she lied to me in my face, I don't know if it was only a kiss, I wonder what her true feelings for this guy is. Knowing that she finds him cute, that she didnt drink, and that she could have easily denied the kiss and gone, i feel like she has no excuse. I read all of the comments and most of them are for women who just dont care about their couples or that are too drunk to know what is happening.. This is eating me alive, because I don't know is shes trust-able, and if everything she told me is true. Please someone give an advice.. I truly love her but this image of what could have really happened is killing me. Is it bad that i feel like she might do it again, and that i feel bad to look at her or kiss her? I just want to know someone else opinion on this plz..
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I wouldn't make her feel bad for telling you about it either because she'll feel she'll never be able to tell you anything ever again. Good Luck I think you and your wife have something very special.