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Snooping and Spying Sometimes I snoop or spy.
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I am obsessed with snooping on my boyfriend |
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Wednesday, 18 June 2008 |
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My boyfriend has a female co-worker friend that he spends time with outside of work. They have worked together for 3 yrs. I was honest an told him it made me a little jealous and that I hoped he would be more open about their relationship and the time they were spending together. Then I found out that a planned vacation with co-workers was only with that one female friend. He lied to me about it, and then said it was because he knew I was jealous and didn't want to make me upset. I don't know if anything happened... he doesn't seem like the type to cheat. After that, I started snooping... I found text messages where they said they love each other. I confronted him. And the issue became me snooping and not the inappropriate content on the messages. He claims they love each other only as best friends. I promised not to snoop anymore... but I just don't trust him. Since then, I read his emails, msn conversations and facebook messages. I try to check his text messages, but since he knows I checked before he always deletes them. Even though I haven't found anything incriminating and I really believe that he didn't cheat on me, I still can't stop snooping. I am obsessed and I don't know what to do. |
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I have been using a nanny cam to spy on my husband |
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Thursday, 05 June 2008 |
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I have been carrying this on my heart for 9 months and haven’t told anyone. Last July my husband started staying up later than I and I would get up around midnight to get a drink or something and he would be in the living room on his laptop computer, when I would walk in he would close it so I got suspicious that he was on a porn website or something like that. Well Sept. 15th he thought I went to bed but I decided to stand outside the window and watch what he was doing on his laptop. He went into a "secure" file and what I saw made my heart sick. He had nude photos of himself and he had pictures of (fully clothed) people that he knew way back in high school and he would put his picture close to them. Weird yes!! He was clearly excited about this. By the way he is 58 years old. When he went to bed I confronted him about this and he felt really bad about it and said he was sorry. I forgave him but I can’t forget. I eventually did forget about it and 6 months later in March of this year my computer broke down so he brought his laptop home from work and let me use it. I play lots of games on there so I downloaded a game and then deleted it so not to mess up his computer then I went into the Recycle Bin and there was a naked picture of my husband that he took the night before and then I went into photoshop and found young girls in bikinis that he likes looking at. I was just frozen because he told me he wouldn’t do that anymore. I waited until Friday after we got home from work, he was going to print out our taxes and when he punched print, it printed out his nude picture and he grabs it real quick and said that’s an old picture. I told him no that I found it and it was dated on the 31st of Aug - a night that I went to bed early. So he lied to me about that. He said once again that he was sorry and I do believe him but once again my heart hurts because I used to trust him so much and now I've lost that trust. I think about that all the time. That’s not the part that I'm hurt over. I still don’t trust him and so I bought hidden nanny cams so that when I do go to bed I can watch to make sure he's not doing that. Well he talks to his brothers wife because his brother has been gone off and on and I don’t mind that but what he does is talks to her about his job (He's a firefighter and Paramedic) and as he is talking to her he is touching himself and is excited about this and I don’t think its her. I really don’t know but this bothers me so bad. I don’t know whether to talk to him or what. It is ruining me! I cry all the time thinking that maybe he wants me to look like her or that he finds her more attractive. I don’t know and I can’t tell anyone. |
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Snooping is ruining my marriage |
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Friday, 09 May 2008 |
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I started snooping on my spouse's cell phone statements and credit card statements when I could catch them before he got them and hid them. I would open the envelope on the side, not the top, and then glue it back together after I looked at it. It has been more hurtful than helpful, but I feel like I need information to make an informed decision about whether or not to leave this marriage. How much am I supposed to endure? When he says he is going to work one day and then a month later I see that he called a stranger's phone number and had a credit card charge at a restaurant on that very day, what am I supposed to do? I keep hoping that the next statement will be "clean" - that I can stop feeling like the fool I obviously am. This spying has become an obsession and it's very unhealthy for me. I guess I should just own up to it and tell him I've got to leave this marriage because I'm turning into someone I despise. It's a twisted, weird, and sick game. The hardest part is trying to figure out how much of this situation evolved from my part. I'm obviously very fearful of conflict, because I avoid confronting him with my findings (I'm also ashamed of myself and don't want to admit that I have sneaked into his mail, although as a married couple I think mail should be open to either one of us.) I've confronted him a couple of times and he went on the offensive and hurt my feelings even worse. I feel like I'm being torn apart into such tiny pieces that I'm virtually dissolved into nothingness. |
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I lack trust in my boyfriend and I'm snooping |
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Monday, 05 May 2008 |
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I don't trust my boyfriend of nearly three years. This may be because we went out before, years ago and it ended badly. We got back together, and a year into it, I found out he lied about having sex with a friend. Now I'm obsessed with catching him. I just found out he bought porn and lied about it. Now I'm just confused and scared, and feel alone. |
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Want to stop spying on my boyfriend |
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Monday, 24 March 2008 |
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I spy on my boyfriend. Keylogged his pc at one point and check his email, facebook, myspace, and personal online journal all the time. I feel bad about it, but at the same time I know why my boyfriend's secretive and flirtatious nature has led me to act this way. I hope I can stop checking and just trust him, even if he isn't being faithful. If it means me doing something I never want to do to any partner, then its not worth it. |
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My snooping has created a dilemma |
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Tuesday, 18 March 2008 |
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I snooped through my boyfriend's cell phone and found he is "hiding" an ex-lover in his contacts by listing her phone number under a man's name. And they've been having frequent contact. And he's been lying to me about it. If I confront him with it, the issue will be all about my snooping. But I don't know how I can't. I'm wondering if I should just break it off and never tell him what I found. |
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I am reading my boyfriend's e-mail |
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Saturday, 19 January 2008 |
After talking with my boyfriend's friend I found out that my boyfriend lies to me. I just moved in with him. He left his email open and I read it. I found out that he does keep in touch with other women. When I asked him questions about it he lied to my face. And, I was too fearful to say you're lying - I read your email. Never in a million years would I have believed this would happen in this relationship.
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My insecurity led me to snoop on my boyfriend |
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Saturday, 24 November 2007 |
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My boyfriend has been nothing but loving and wonderful to me, and yet I can't seem to trust him fully. He keeps in contact with an ex of his and it drvies me crazy. I went through his cell phone and email to acquire this information, so I feel guilty about invading his privacy. He is not cheating on me, but I still can't seem to believe that he won't. I don't know why I am so insecure. I love my boyfriend but his ex has made very inappropriate advances to him and I am worried they will hook up again. I am struggling with wondering if my insecurity is a sign that this relationship should be ended or if this is fairly normal for partners to have jealous episodes. |
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Wednesday, 12 September 2007 |
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My girlfriend of four years and recently fiance cheated on my with one of her coworkers. Having found out, I chose not to end things with the hope that this one and only time might be something we could overcome. But the truth is, I don't trust her one iota. And so, I've been spying on her in a pretty elaborate way that has left her with little, if an privacy. Some of the lengths to which I've delved into her personal life would shock most people, I think. And I feel like crap for doing it, but it's the only way I feel that I can protect myself while at the same time ensuring that when she says she's being faithful. It's not only when she knows I'm watching. |
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I feel awful about what I discovered |
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Wednesday, 25 July 2007 |
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I wanted to post from the opposite side of the fence. I LOVE my wife. We have been married for 10 years and have 2 beautiful kids. She is gorgeous and sexy and I never let a day go by without letting her know. I have been faithful and never wanted anyone else but my wife. Unfortunately, about 2 weeks ago I caught her texting with another man. After confronting her (stupid me, because I guess I should have waited for more evidence) she denied denied denied. I did have some evidence which then made her confess to having a flirtatious relationship with this guy. I listened to her reasons why (she felt like she lost her identity, it was an escape etc.) and she swore to me that nothing physical has happened. It turns out that our relationship became even that much stronger as a result.... I felt like we really connected on an emotional level... more than ever before. She swore to me that she would always tell me the truth and speak to me as a friend. I promised that I would always listen and be objective. Things were going great and this little incident really just brought out the best in both of us. More sex than usual, even more communication and a renewed appreciation for communication with each other. I was not bothered by the texting incident in the slightest because I felt the end result was an even stronger commitment to one another. Then tonight, I found that she has started up texting this individual again. It's all bullshit. I beg and pray that all of the women and men out there really read this and understand that infidelity hurts so much. I have no idea how far my wife's conversations/actions have gone, but where there is smoke there is usually fire. Remember the reasons why you fell in love, remember the kids and most of all, remember the commitments made (till death do us part!!!). That person you married sleeping next to you once swept you off your feet. It's up to both of you to keep it going. Good luck to all of you out there and be good to your spouses. |
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