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Made a Mistake

I've done something I shouldn't have.

I married the wrong person

Friday, 02 January 2009
I'm afraid I married the wrong person and have made a terrible mistake. I don't think I want to raise children with this person but I don't know what to do. I'm afraid and ashamed to leave the marriage - everyone thinks were a perfect couple.

Feeling guilty about a past affair

Thursday, 18 December 2008

I am riddled with guilt and feelings of self-hatred for making the mistake of cheating on my husband 14 years ago. I could never bring myself to tell him. At first I was able to push the feelings down and get on with life but lately the feelings of shame and disappointment in myself have resurfaced causing deep depression. I feel like a fraud. To tell would bring about such chaos as I need to consider the impact on other family members. Looking back I can't believe it was me who did this. I would never do it again and counsel anyone out there to remain true to yourself and your spouse because what's done can't be undone.

Something happened with a friend

Wednesday, 01 October 2008

Last Sunday a female friend of mine was feeling upset and down and asked if she could stay over. I told my girlfriend about the situation and she was ok with it. So I set up the spare room for my friend, she wanted me to hold her, and I did, and that's when things went wrong. We didn't kiss or have sex but other things happened. Things we both regret. It won't happen again. She appears to be over her guilt, and is more worried about me telling my girlfriend. I haven't told my girlfriend what happened and I dunno if I can. I feel sick with guilt. My girlfriend is coming to visit this weekend and I really don't know what to do.

Regret cheating on my boyfriend

Monday, 25 August 2008

I cheated on my live-in boyfriend of four years. I am madly in love with him still and trying to work through my personal guilt. He was out of town for the weekend and I was bored and looking for company. I had been feeling a lot of confusion about where our relationship was going and whether or not it was working - whether or not I was happy. I met some friends that I never see for some drinks. One in particular that I knew was attracted to me. One thing led to another, and after getting drunk, I slept with him. The next day I found myself feeling completely devastated, shocked, and disgusted at my stupid behavior. I cannot tell my boyfriend - I love him - respect him and want to work things out. I know that through this experience I have to learn how to communicate my desires and issues with my boyfriend and to remember to not give into that confusion when it comes along. I know I will never, ever do anything like this ever again by not allowing myself to be in a compromising position such as that. I love him, I hope that if he knew he could forgive me and that I can forgive myself and give this relationship all that I have.

Encounter with my brother's wife

Thursday, 31 July 2008
When I was 15 my older brother's wife had sex with me. I was just young and wanted the urge to go away. This was over 25 years ago. I know I should have not done it, but I did. I still feel awkward around him. I wish I had never done it!

Fooled around on my girlfriend

Tuesday, 29 April 2008

Last night I was involved with another couple in sexual play but not actual intercourse. It was seriously only for about 2 minutes and the result of drunk rambling. I have a girlfriend and feel terrible for what I have done. I would never cheat on her again because I love her too much and I never want to feel like this again. I thought I might feel better writing this down as I'm never going to tell her what happened. Our relationship would not handle it and I need to learn to live with my mistakes. Thanks for listening.

Lied about my past sexual history

Wednesday, 09 April 2008
When I first started dating my boyfriend, I had no idea where it would lead. So, I lied to him about how many people I've been with - no big deal - it wasn't his business at the time. Well, now that we are engaged we are going back to my hometown to meet all of my family and friends (some I slept with). I don't know how to tell him the truth and I'm worried he is going to find out somehow.

My boss forced me to have an affair

Tuesday, 06 November 2007

I have kept a secret from my husband of 10 years who I love more than life.

I have been having an affair with my boss for a year now. It all started when I went to borrow my pay check early to pay a late bill. He told me he would but it would cost me. I didn’t know how much it cost until later. He made me have sex with him to get my money, and I did. I don't enjoy it and never have. I know I am an adult and I can say no, but he threatened to tell my husband. Now my guilt is eating at my heart. And the worst part, I am starting to accuse my husband of cheating. I could not say anything about it if he was anyway because of what I am doing.

I have found a new job. I start next week. I just want to get away from this place and be happy.

I drank too much and cheated on my girlfriend

Monday, 05 November 2007

I have been with my girlfriend for 3 and a half years and love her dearly. Last weekend I was out with some friends and we all ended up very, very drunk.

I can barely remembered what happened, but I somehow ended up sleeping with one of my friends from work. I never wanted it to happen and I've done anything like this before. I am so full of remorse and guilt, I don't know what to do.

I know how she stands on cheating and this would be the end of us, if I was to tell her. All this has made me realize how much I really do love her and I couldn't bear to loose her.

If only I could take it all back....

Feeling out of control and self-destructive

Sunday, 28 October 2007

To start, I’m a chronic pot head with bulimic and anorexic tendencies. I recently left a bad 13 year relationship and find myself going downhill fast. I’m with a new man, have been for 3months, but already managed to ruin it by sleeping with someone else now I feel guilty. I am disgusted with myself. All of these things are being kept secret as well as my chronic binge of weekend drinking to get drunk and pass out. And let’s not forget about the unprotected sex I continually have. I think I’m self destructing and sabotaging my life on purpose or punishment for messing so many things up. I’m approaching my 30th b-day in a month fun my brain feels like I’m 16, confused and scared looking for a way out.