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My affair has left me with a broken heart

Friday, 05 October 2007

I have only ever been in love once, and still am. Although married (just split) after 27 years, I can only love this other man. There will never be anyone else. I do not think he loves me, we shared extreme physical communication and lots of romance, but I believe that is all he wants.

I met him again after three years apart, he did not want to know me, he has been distant but I still just don’t get it.

I cannot help but feel that he has the same sort of feelings for me. My head says that it is all wrong and that I should never have let my husband go, because this other man is not only married but from a very strict religious background. It would never ever work.

But there is something there that cannot be described. I want to get away again now and stop contacting him. He is always too busy to see me, so I know it seems pathetic that I keep contacting him. But there is this underlying feeling that we were meant to be together.

It is a very hard place to be, as now I have my freedom from a volatile relationship and have more to offer, but now he is really not interested.

I feel better now for sharing this secret because my heart is broken and needs to heal.

Still tempted to cheat but trying not to

Tuesday, 02 October 2007

My wife and I have been married for 7 years, and I have had 4 one-night flings during that span. I told her about each encounter eventually.

I still find myself "looking" for someone else, whether it's online or the woman at the bar hitting on me. It's tough to resist.

However, after some counseling and making some serious attempts to be really honest with myself and my wife (about what I want emotionally, sexually etc...) I feel much better about myself and although tempted, have not cheated on her in almost a year.

I've read many of the posts here and can relate to many of you! I know all those feelings. Obviously it takes effort on both parts, but for a long time I found it easy to blame my wife entirely for my flings. I was constantly thinking about leaving her but I never did. What really has helped me remain faithful is thinking of her in a positive light, communicating together regularly, making a point to set goals together and have quality intimate time. I take it a day at a time, and try to avoid putting myself in risky/tempting situations. There are days where my mind strays, but I don't demand perfection of myself - just that no matter how tempted I am, I won't cross into something physical. Anyway, it works for me. Good luck to you all.

Constantly Cheating on My Husband

Thursday, 30 August 2007

I cheated on my husband before we got married. I slept with a long time crush of mine twice. Since we've been married I was intimate with a 'friend' at work. A few weeks ago I went on a weekend trip and met a guy who I slept with. He was amazing and was much more equip to sexually please me than my husband is. I am still talking to this guy. I am planning on going to see this guy again next month and I don't feel bad. I know I shouldn't but my heart is so cold to my husband right now that I don't feel the pain this would cause him. I can't make my heart love my husband again but I wish I could. So I told my husband that I want to get separated. He's devastated. Part of me wants to tell him everything so that he will hate me so much that he will leave. I don't deserve him.

My Confession About Cheating

Thursday, 23 August 2007

I have taken out the names so there will be gaps. This is an email that I sent to my present wife and my ex wife... I know I have caused a lot of pain, but I am hurting so much too. I want to be rid of both of them, but I love each so much in different ways. I have stopped messing with my ex-wife, but I am afraid that I needed my ex wife to balance out my current wifes craziness....Perhaps I am the one thats crazy..Anyway, reading all of these confessions has made me realize that there are a lot of people out there going through some same issues.... Here is the email: I wish this site had a comment area...

First and foremost I want to say that I have not been prompted to do this nor am I under any duress, it is just long over due.
Since we got married on 12/15/06 I have spent quit a bit of time with . To her credit, she did not know we were married and I deceived her about that situation. I have been going back and forth with you about getting a divorce because my heart is somewhere else. I don’t understand that well, otherwise I don’t think that I ever would have left in the first place, but her and our have my heart.

This is not something that I have hidden from you. Let me clear, I don’t have the illusion of getting back into a relationship with because we have both moved on with our lives and I know that I am not in a place to be a good man for anyone, but I really want to be alone because I will never be able to give you what you need. Your faults are magnified by my feelings for somebody else. I am the bad person here and I think it is time that I give you and ….. the space to truly move on and find a good man. I have been going back and forth between the two of you, for a long time, but , we truly are not yoked the same and I am wasting your time for real, because no matter how hard I try, we are not going to make it. Like I said, if you had said some of the things to me that I have to you about our relationship, we would not be together. , you know how I feel about you, but we are not going to be able to make it because we find it too hard to be straight with one another and the unpredictability. I just want everyone to have a chance to be happy. I have not been happy for a long time, so this is what I am going to do. , I am going to leave you alone so that you can really move on, , I want out of this marriage, I should not have done it in the first place and there is no need for me to go over the thousands of issues we have.

I have hurt both of you so much over the past years and I am sorry. For real I really mean that.

I hope that one day each of you will find a way to forgive me.

x, it is time for you to be strong and let me go, you can do better. Please forgive me.

y, I am dropping out of the picture so that you can truly move on as well. Please forgive me.

None of this has anything to do with the two of you, I am the bad person in this scenario. I just want a chance to be on my own and stop going back and forth. I have hurt both of you in so many ways. Please recognize what I am saying, and again, I am sorry.

So sorry.

Cheating on My Emotionally Distant Husband

Thursday, 02 August 2007

I have been married for 5 years now and it has been hell the last 3 years. I have cheated on my husband. I have a husband that is a great provider if it comes down to material things but not when I need an emotionally connection. I find myself so guilty about it because I know if I ever found out that he did that I would not be able to take that but I never told him how far things went with other men. I would like to think I could share this with him, but it won't ever happen.

Feeling Guilty about Cheating on Boyfiend

Tuesday, 03 July 2007

There is a strong sexual tension between myself and my boyfriend's best friend, who happens to be my closest friend also. This tension has never been satisfied sexually, but through a drunken night of cuddling and another drunken night of talking and a kiss that was way inappropriate. These feelings are almost nonexistent in sober situations, which is why I'm a bit confused as to what this is - aside from disrespectful to my boyfriend. My boyfriend is an amazing man and I could never ask for more in a mate. I am a bit concerned about committing to spend the rest of my life with someone that I would do this to, even though I DO love him. We are not going to tell him because it will NEVER happen again. I feel very guilty about this and our best friend seems to be fine with this. I would like to avoid him because I feel uncomfortable. He seems to want to hang out with and not affected by what happened with us.

Mother-in-law made a move on me

Thursday, 21 June 2007
My mother in law seduced me within a year of my marriage.

Unhappily married and I cheated

Tuesday, 01 May 2007

I have been married for 8 years and have 4 children. The relationship has always been rather rocky, as evidenced by our innumerable separations. There have been multiple deeds on both our parts that have hurt each other in the past. I also wouldn't characterize my marriage as being "happy." I recently went on a business trip and met a girl who was very flirtatious with me. I initially rejected her advances, but eventually when she showed up in nothing but a bathrobe at my hotel door, relented. I have never done anything like this before, and feel horrible. I plan on changing and being a better father and husband.

Excitement of cheating

Wednesday, 25 April 2007

Where to begin, this story... My girlfriend in college I cheated on once right before the relationship was over, and a few times with some street walkers (for $20 a pop). I would drive around till 6 or 7 am looking for street walkers, it was the excitement of doing it.
Fast forward to my present relationship, I have been unfaithful, but it never really bothered me until she confronted me. Now because I had to lie so openly about it bothers me, and I suspect her more to. I have gone to a prostitute, which is so dangerous, but again the "excitement" keeps me going. And I have had a few encounters with other women... I feel guilty and want to come clean, but want to spare her the suffering... what can I do?

Send a letter to his wife

Sunday, 08 April 2007
I am seeing a married man. We dated in high school and were reunited after almost 20 years. I love him and I want to believe he loves me. I want him to ask for a divorce. Maybe I should sent an anonymous letter to the wife. The letter doesn't have to say who she is but maybe it would force him to fess up and make a choice...