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I am sleeping with a married man

Wednesday, 11 June 2008
I am sleeping with a married man; he used an alias, but I know his real name. I suspect he knows I know his real name, but he has never confessed to using an alias. And I will never ask outright because I understand why he did it.

I want to cheat on my husband

Sunday, 08 June 2008
I want to cheat on my husband. Only once. Just to see how it feels.

Distraught husband knows the truth

Tuesday, 20 May 2008
I know you slept with him. Why won't you admit it to me? Too many years together for you to think I don't know what you are capable of. 159 - your distraught husband

I regret cheating on my husband

Tuesday, 29 April 2008
To my husband: I did sleep with him. I am so sorry. I only loved you at the time. I don't know what I was thinking. Please forgive me.

I am having an affair with my boss

Sunday, 13 April 2008

I am dating my boss who is married. I am only 22 years old and this is my first real job. He is 35 and hired me on the spot, which threw up a red flag for me immediately. When I denied the job he called and asked me to come meet him and discuss why I should take the job. I am doing extremely well, and he was right about me being great for the job. Now we are lovers and he is married. He has recently accepted a promotion as GM and has to move two states away. He says he is going to live alone. He has a baby with his wife and I can't image that they won't live together. It is making me sick! I want to stop seeing him, but he makes me so happy and has convinced me that he loves me. We ran into our boss or the GM this weekend, and I am scared to face work tomorrow. I know I am great at what I do and don't want to quite or lose my job. I also want him to be successful. I am living a lie and can not stand it. I have been lying to my parents and family. I am probably lying to myself that this relationship will work out! It is hard to try to end a relationship with your boss, when he claims to love you and sends you sweet messages constantly and spends every possible moment he can with you, even though he is married with a baby at home. It all seems so wrong and cliche. This situation is breaking all my values and moral that I thought existed within myself. I know that the situation will not end well. He is moving in a month, and either I will move with him or stay.

I keep cheating with the same guy

Saturday, 29 March 2008

It all started when I was 20 years old. I was in a long term relationship with my boyfriend whom was 3 years older than me. I felt like I was losing him, and I felt alone because I had moved out here from another state. One night his younger brother slept in the same bed as me. I was wearing a small tank top and long pj pants. Well, his brother had the nerve to fondle me. I woke up and I was in shock and thought what the hell!! It was his brother!

Two weeks passed by and the next encounter I seduced him. I was young and foolish at the time. We had sex in our apartment. It went on for 2 years while I was still dating his older brother. I didn't think anything of it nor did I think of the future.

I finally ended the relationship with the older brother and went on my own way. I dated a lot and had many sexual partners, one being the younger brother. He insisted that we continue having sex because it was fun.

I started feeling bad and asked him not to contact me because the guilt was setting in. I lasted a long time in not talking to him until recently.

We talked again and talked about our crazy times that we had sex. He still seems to be interested in me and tells me he loves me. I honestly don't have anything in my heart for him that would make me fall in love or want to marry the guy. In fact, I am now engaged to someone else. Well our conversations were becoming weekly then daily. We ended up getting drunk together and I had sex with him. I feel horrible because I don't want to repeat that behavior. I cannot tell my fiancé of 5 years, or else he will leave me. I don't know what to do.

These kinds of secrets can really take a toll on a person. I currently feel like an evil person and not worthy. I have started going to church and have prayed with all my might to stop and to repent. I just don't know how to tell his guy without hurting his feelings or causing him to hate me.

Strong desire to cheat on my girlfriend

Wednesday, 19 March 2008

I have been dating my girlfriend for close to three years and we have just moved in together. She is a really wonderful person. She's nice, fun, intelligent, beautiful, is wonderful with babies and small children, on a path for a successful life, and I feel she genuinely loves me for who I am. I care a lot about her and her feelings, but I have trouble with the desire to cheat on her when a spontaneous opportunity arises. I have never cheated on her, but whenever I am out at a bar and an attractive woman comes on to me, I am overcome with lust for whoever it may be, but I do not act on my feelings. But the desire to have a brief, non-emotional fling with another woman is tormenting me. The temptation I face sometimes forces me to question my ability to not cheat on my wonderful girlfriend in some way, i.e. flirting, touching, kissing, or even sex.

Having a sexual affair

Tuesday, 18 March 2008

I am cheating on my husband of 8 years. The other man is married and sexy. We are having fun. I know it is wrong, but I have no desire to stop. I am not in love with this man and do not plan to fall in love with him. I'm pretty sure he feels the same way. My husband is sweet and caring, but I have absolutely no sexual attraction to him. I would never want to hurt him and I just can't seem to leave him. I don't think I want to. We have a child and I don't think I could make it on my own. The worst part about this affair is that we have agreed to make it an occasional thing and I cannot stop thinking about this man. I keep replaying our meetings in my head over and over. Alas.

I feel awful about cheating on my boyfriend

Sunday, 20 January 2008

I have just recently cheated on my boyfriend of almost 8 years. I apologize for the long entry!

Let me start by saying, my boyfriend and I have been dating since we were 16. I feel as though I lost out on a lot of experiences growing up, such as living on my own, flings, broken hearts, because I joined such a commited relationship so young.

It all started about 3 months ago when I became friends with a team mate. We hit it off as friends but looking back there was definitely more. He is a married man, about 14 years older then me. We spent alot of time talking, mostly over the computer. We would drive to games together, and sometimes go for lunch. At the time, it seemed so innocent. We would hug, but nothing more. I kept things going because it felt good to just have something different in my life and to have the chance to get to know someone else, all the while thinking that I would never cross the line. I think he was interested for the same reason, as he told me I made him feel alive.

Anyways, things progressed quite quickly. He flirted alot and on several occasions mentioned having a secret affair. I told him that there was no way I could cheat on my boyfriend, little did I know that I was already emotionally cheating on him by even pursuing the "friendship".

Eventually it lead to us both giving in, and cheating. We didn't have sex (thank goodness) but we did make out.

I have felt sick to my stomach guilty every since. I like to think that it was never my intention to cheat, but then why didn't I cut off all ties with the guy? I know that there is no way I can take back what I did, and the regret I feel because of that is so horrible. I am keeping it from my long time boyfriend because I think it would only be selfish to tell him. In a perfect world I would like to think I could confess and he would forgive and we could move forward unscathed. But I know that is impossible. So now I am left trying to deal with the feelings of guilt so that he doesn't have to be burdened by my mistake.

I have told the other guy that I am terribly sorry for what has happened and that he needs to be out of my life.

If anything good has come from this, it is that I hope I become a better person. To myself, and to my boyfriend. I want to focus on the reasons I let this happen in the first place, and I want to know better for next time.

My advice to anyone who is in a similar situation: please learn from my mistake!! It is not worth the hurt and pain that you have to deal with. If you are in a relationship that is unhappy, or in limbo, look at the reasons why and try to come up with solutions. Cheating, and being neglectful are only temporary solutions and in fact make things much more complicated in the end.

It just isn't worth it.

To my boyfriend, I am so terribly sorry. I have made a very bad mistake, and I vow to you that I will learn from it. I will try to be a better girlfriend to you, and if our problems can't be resolved then I will let you go so that this can not happen again. I love you with all my heart, and from all this pain and guilt, something good will come from it.

I am bored with my wife

Friday, 11 January 2008

I'm bored and uninterested in my marriage. I still love my wife but the excitement of being with someone else overwhelms me, and I continue to do it. I have only had sex several times with others, and I haven't told her. I want to keep cheating, especially when she is out of town. I meet so many girls and so many are interested. I could have gotten together with a hundred, but I've kept it at a hand-full. I have had sex with one, another gave me oral sex, and I've made out with countless others.